Re: Expectations...
You are absolutely right PureSunlight. I guess marriage is what you make it to be, but having unrealistic expactations is what makes marriages sour. The fairytale part gets carried away whe people think marriage is only romance without the responsibility.
I got into marriage with expectations that it would always be my top priority. There have been situations in my life where I have been distracted by other responsibilities and I could see how going out of balance was affecting the strength of my marriage. Luckily I was quick enough to realize that I need to re-focus and get back on track.
Also, it's sad how many people today are ungrateful for what they have. They focus on weaknesses of their spouse rather than the strengths. Like, oh, my husband took me to California but I really wanted to go to Hawaii. We have to learn how to be content. People like the other spouse to fulfil yet we underdeliver.
I guess we are a restless race. Our priorities seem to be getting lost in the quest for searching me, I and myself too much.