Excess Baggage - How Soon

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Re: Excess Baggage - How Soon

@zash01

So if u are meeting with a potential. How soon should you make him aware of your past. Espacially if you have been married before and have excess baggage from that relationship. eg children or even just crap that you need to make the potential aware of.

Do you first just sus it out to see that you are right for one another.

Or should you just hope for the best and in the first potential talk time, come out with your whole life history. etc etc

not sure..

If the person you’re meeting truly is worthy of your hand, he should be okay with the idea. Something like that should be mentioned very soon as it is a big deciding factor (sadly) for many. i’A he will be okay with it and he will be right for you.

The Prophet Muhammad (saw) specifically married a widowed woman with children to provide her and her children an easier life. We can all only strive to be so perfect, but the least we can do is to at least search for the right qualities in the opposite gender. If this man is not ready to accept that responsibility, then be glad that Allah (swt) just spared you a troublesome marriage.