What do you do when you feel like you failed your own standard that you set for yourself?
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I try to figure out what went wrong and why. And how I can fix it and/or do things differently from now on.
And I will evaluate wether I am not being too harsh on myself by setting the bar too high.
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call it life 
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I DMAO
Re asses the standard I have set for myself. Re asses the circumstaces. Did I trip up due to circumstance?? Or are my standards unrealistic?? If its the latter then rethink it
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Hmm…a philosophical thought just occurred to me. If you keep on beating yourself up for failing to meet a “standard” or for having made mistakes or showing weakness…could it reflect more than just disappointment? Could it also reflect ego or pride? In the sense that…one fails to accept that they were created weak and imperfect and that as hard as it for us to accept sometimes…we don’t full control life.
smart phones add more often used words in the phone dictionary and autocorrect what you are trying to say. It is very clear that you use the word asses a lot. Shame on you
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haar kis ne mani hai na maney gey 
or ager aisa hu gaya tu…kick ker ke agey bherey gey 
If I failed standards then I evaluate whether the standards were realistic or what caused that I failed and what I can do to not repeat it in future. Last, if there is some impact of this failure then determine if I can minimize that and do that.
Because it kind of belongs here:
“Never get so caught up in making a living that you forget to make a life.”
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i committed a blunder in my life regarding my career, i owned it, i corrected it and then chose another path and succeeded in it…still wanna progress and i’m doing everything i can to achieve my career goal.
alHamdolillah! 
Lmao hahaha. Ok you got me there. Assess*. …im just gonna go now *leaves quietly
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The analogy that comes to mind is training for long distance running (or your event of choice). The Olympic level athletes set aggressive goals. And I have no idea if they enjoy the process.
For the lay(wo)man, it is best to set a range. Say 3 min 44 to 3 min 55 for marathonn(congrats again queer!). Rather than an aggressive 3h 30 min. And for training days, have some less intense days mixed up with more intense days. And never go all out during training. And chill a bit if on a given day you feel subpar. It is ok.
Or what Mr. Monk said.
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I usually turn in to a raging feminist.
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Its called an experience
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I lower my standards for next time.
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Girtay hain shahsawaar he maidaan-e-jang mein…
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I set standards which are realistic. If I can’t attain them I re-evaluate what I have done and try a different approach.
As Yoda said “Do or do not. There is no try”. That is how I aim to live my life.
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Except if you don’t go into it with a high expectation, then you’re doing yourself a disservice as well as others.
I was at this darse/religious lecture once. We had this really cool girl amongst our presence who knew a LOT about Islam, given that she was so frikkin young. So she pulled out this philosophy, and I’m not sure who said this or if this was a hadith or some muslim philospher, who knows. My knowledge in this stuff is not hers - she’s a PHD in Islam now.
But she made this comment, and I haven’t forgotten it and I do whatever I can to apply it to my life.
A muslim has an obligation to their community. He/she has an obligation to make them look GOOD, not bad. And one way to do that is by seeking knowledge. And so the goal of the muslim who seeks knowledge to improve his community and show his LOVE to Allah, a form of ibaadat if you will, is to set the bar HIGH. So that if you set it this high (ex. 10 inches), then you have some setbacks, things don’t pan out, you weren’t smart enough or you didn’t study hard enough or whatever - then you’ll get to maybe 8 inches? But if you set your bar at 20 inches, and you don’t make it and slip up a little, well then you hit 18 inches. And that’s better than 10 inches.
So it’s not about an ego. It’s about a form of love for God, that you do the best damn you can do, so that people can stand back and respect and say “woah that person is awesome, and they’re muslim”, and the effect of that resonnates throughout our community → we all look good.