Would it still bother u if ur partner ever had a gf or bf before u, even though they dont have anything between them no more.
i personally cant take it, i think people who make gf or bf every other year or so on, can never be sincere with anyone not even to the person they get married to.
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i Think that just because someone has had a number of ex's doesn't mean that they won't be faithful to you. Maybe they were looking for the right person and now they are with you they don't ever need to look else where.
But i understand that a person can feel jealous of their partner's ex because you might think that that person was better than you or more good looking than you but you have to say to yourself that if that is the case then why didn't your partner stay with that person or why has he/she chosen you over anyone else. The answer is that your partner wants you and feels you are the right person for them not thier ex's.
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to find the right person u dont have to go through hundreds of people
if things are not working between u it doesnt mean u leave them and move on to the next one. if the person is seroius abt the relationship in first place they would try to sort out things not go and look for in search of new gf obf
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jeeeez look at u lot talking like having a gf or bf is soooooo normal!!!!!
define a relationship between a gf and a bf?......do u go out on a date?...... r u 'jus' friends?....it sickens me to know that in this daynage its 'normal' to have gf/bf.............u never know wot they were up to?....and is touching a non-mehrum as a gf or a bf allowed in islam now?......
is it soo normal to be seen with a guy now in town or in public places?........wot kind of a muslim r u if uv been in a reltionship before u got married....but i do understand ppl make mistakes and they can be faithful after they are married coz not every muslim is perfect but common cud v please not sound so 'okish' about having exxes.....
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some people just don't know what kind of person they are looking for until they've been with others.
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^ i agree, and well, how else are you supposed to know? psychic powers?
i'm not saying sleep with everyone you meet and whore around, but if you don't actually date someone, how on earth do you narrow down what you do, and do not, want in a life partner? after all, isn't that how you narrow down rishta's that you meet through the arranged process too? by talking to that person and hopefully hanging out with them or getting to know them somehow?
you don't just marry the first person you're introduced to, do you? and even if you do, how would you feel about you not being the first person they've met and chatted up? i mean, in the end its the same thing- whether you choose to explore a relationship by yourself and narrow down your options, or whether your parents pick someone for you- the only difference is the degree to which you get to know them and how far you take the relationship and thats a personal choice in one, and limited by society in the other.
to answer the question, no im not bothered by my husband's ex. she's in australia now, workin' as a teacher and all the best to her. in the end, they broke up and we met and got married- i don't see the need to feel insecure. a lot of it has to do with trust too. and its also having faith in someone and trusting them that leads to the understanding that they won't just up and leave you, or you, them.
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some people just don't know what kind of person they are looking for until they've been with others.
I believe if you are not stupidly in love with some one, its very easy to tell if you could spend you life with him or not.
But problem is you can't help falling in love.
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I believe if you are not stupidly in love with some one, its very easy to tell if you could spend you life with him or not. But problem is you can't help falling in love.
also if you are good judge :p
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yeah that too.
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If his ex still flirts with him then it can get annoying..otherside try not to let it bother you too much..It's not easy to find someone who hasn't been with anyone else before.
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I wouldn't be bothered with my girl's ex. Past stays in the past to me.
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past is past, and its pretty pathetic and insecure to feel threatened over something that's long gone.
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Past is past..unless of course they make it pretty obvious their still not over him/her.
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hey kaanch.............sumtimes evei feel insecure about abt my guy's ex............she was actuaaly very ugly.so sumtimes i do have the fear that he mite leave me sumday if he doesnt find me attractive as well.but then i guess u have to trust that person.there's no other way. Baqi sab allah ke haath pe chordo.........