i dont know if theres any thread like this before…but i just want to know…do u think an ex can be a friend…or do u have any experince like ex as a friend??
i dont know if theres any thread like this before...but i just want to know...do u think an ex can be a friend...or do u have any experince like ex as a friend??
Hey Kinzz,
Good to have you back! Actually, there have been similar threads. It depends on the person. Some people can keep contact with their ex..........because they both don't have romantic feelings anymore.
BUT......generally speaking......I think it's better to avoid it. I'm not saying that things will definitely go wrong........but the "potential" is there. Your ex is an ex for a reason. And in most stories that I've heard/read.........if you allow the ex to enter your life......it just causes problems. Our emotions are so complicated......that something like this can trigger the revival of old feelings....and in the process potentially destroy current successful relationships......or take you back to the same place where you worked so hard to move on from.
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I agree with redvelvet. Its not a good idea to have your ex to be your friend, It doesnt work. Unless you dont have feelings for each other, and you dont mind if he gets another gf or he doesnt mind you get a new bf. But if you still have feelings for him, it cant work out, because you will want it to be how it used to be, and that simply cant happen.
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Thanks RV...u are right ir depends on the person...
but lets say if u had a very bed experiance with your ex he cheated with you....and then he is very happy with his new girlfriend/wife...so is that possible he and his ex can be good friends?
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dont...my ex is my friends even after 8yrs if messes wid my head sometimes!
Thanks RV...u are right ir depends on the person...
but lets say if u had a very bed experiance with your ex he cheated with you....and then he is very happy with his new girlfriend/wife...so is that possible he and his ex can be good friends?
Kinzz..........the thing is that ANYTHING is possible.......there are no guarantees. I mean we don't even have a guarantee about our own feelings.
Example: Let's say that a happily married woman gets in touch with her ex. The ex is happily married as well. They both start chatting. Well, life is unpredictable and marriages have ups and downs. What if in the near future....the woman and her husband are having a bad spell in their marriage......they're frequently arguing......things are not going well. She starts talking to her ex.....not necessarily about the problems in her marriage.......but just generally. And in the process.......she starts fantasizing or reminiscing about the good times she shared with him in the good ole days. And the she finds herself struggling with keeping such thoughts away. I'm not saying that this can only happen to the woman.................but the guy (ex) can also face the same situation.
Most people don't have doston ki kami...............to phir kya zaroorat hai ex ko dost banany ki? And sometimes......if our own neeyat is saaf..........doosray banday ki niyat ghalat ho sakti hai.
^ Also, would a person's husband/wife feel comfortable knowing that they're getting back in touch with their ex?
dont...my ex is my friends even after 8yrs if messes wid my head sometimes!
Exactly. Emotions are complicated....can't be turned off like a light switch. And it can get messy when certain things/events trigger what you might have worked hard to get over.
if kids are involved then yes u have to ...
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i wouldn't go there personally, it might get complicated especially if one still had feelings for the other. better to have a clean break
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I've seen in western ppl accepting their ex as a friend and be together, but in desis, its totally opposite. We are too emotional people and its hard to accept ex as a friend. Some of us do, but its a rare example
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rule of thumb :nono: it leads to complications
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i agree with kaun ... way tooo many complications and life is pretty complicated as is ... why do u wanna make it even more
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No.
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It's better to stay away especially when you are involved with someone else. No point to go back unless you want to take chance of ruining your current relationship.
However if you were married and had children and it ended in a divorce then it's better to have a civil friendship with your ex for your children's sake. If hatred towards your ex is found in your heart then it will somehow reflect and observed by your children leaving a bad impression. Rule of thumb should be that your mom is a good mom or your dad id a good dad even if they are not.
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^whatever happened to the story u started posting in life1? ran outta twists?
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umm it depends on how close the two of you were during the relationship. if you're both over it, have moved on and don't mind remaining friends then i guess its alright.
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If X was not able to be a "friend" before being X, tu after being X uss main kia surkhab k pur lagh gaeey hain k he/she can be a friend?
X will remain X no matter how you write it and incidentally, its also the symbol of NO