Seven years ago, when I started my practical life in Prime Minister’s Secretariat Islamabad, once the secretary came to my office and started a converstation during which she asked me why I avoided (eye contact) and (unnecessary) talk with her. I replied that this is how my faith teaches me and this is how I would like my mother/sister/wife/daughter to be treated by a stranger.
While I was busy in my work she started talking that she was forced to do this (well paid) job due to economical problems and she was really uncomfortable being the only woman in that department, but didn’t find any other option of work. Her job demanded her to become a medium of conveying messages of customers to the officals and also in between officials so unfortunately she was always busy (center of attention). She was really bothered by the way people indirectly tried to find ways to interact with her. Too many phone calls, the phone calls of high profile political figures being prolonged to gupshup and later on visits to her office. In rush times, people were allowed to use things (stepler, punch machine, phone…etc) on her table, hence very difficult to avoid minor physical contact from time to time.
I had to leave, so in a hurry I mentioned three things, if she want to avoid attention:
1-------- Allah (swt) ordered the wives of the Prophet (saw) in the Quran:"(Sura Al-Azzab Ayat #32) **“Be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery, etc.) should be moved with desire”
*2------- The Noble Qur’an - An-Nur 24:30-31And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husband’s sons, their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islâm), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex.
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An-Nur 24:30-31 “…And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment…”(High heels or any shoes that show off ones feet)http://www.paklinks.com/gs/religion-and-scripture/484432-are-high-heels-encouraged-in-islam.html
She practiced it for few days, came back and mentioned that she was happy that people don’t bother her anymore. After sometime I left that office to go abroad for studies but later came to know that she was not getting any attention/importance/gifts at all in meetings..etc. after following those 3 points, so she again violated those points for promotion and hence started again worrying why people bother her time and again.