Re: Everything is getting to me, im scared i will break or something, what shall i do
Are these toxic relatives in Pakistan or the UK? If it’s the former, then it’s all the more reason for you to make the effort to talk to them. They may have complained to your mom, who feels even more pressured. Your mom could’ve handled it differently, but I think her reaction was due to overwhelming frustration and she snapped; move on from it and help her out. Don’t provide them with ammunition so easily.
You can help your reputation by doing two things. Firstly as the cliche goes actions speak louder than words. Behave in a way that contradicts what’s being said about you…a more positive way…especially with other desis in the community. Keep your relatives at a distance and don’t share much about your life with them as suggested above…but at the same time…Attend events, socialize more, and that way you’ll form connections. Secondly…and this one’s a bit harder to do…don’t complain or vent about your relatives to family members or people within your community. This will prevent fueling the tension and it creates a difference between you and them…where you will be seen as having more class and they will be seen as gossips over time.
If you haven’t already discussed the above-mentioned concerns with your parents (reputation, them fighting, the future,etc) …then consider doing so when they’re in a better mood. Maybe they’ll take things more seriously and actually do something about it.
No, these relatives are those in the UK, not Pakistan. What type of events do I go to? I really want to start socialising more so that I can meet more people and see that not everyone is bad. What do I do?