Everything is getting to me, im scared i will break or something, what shall i do?

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Re: Everything is getting to me, im scared i will break or something, what shall i do

@Le_Pakistan

That is sad. The fact that this all is breaking you down, shows that you are a good person. May ALLAH TALAH bless you.

AS for your toxic familymembers, unfortunately you can’t do much about their behavior. And as for the people who stop coming to your house because of the negativity spread by your aunties, well it tells more about those people than about you and your parents.
I know it’s horrible when someone spreads false rumours about you, but the only thing you can do is confroont the one spreading it. And stay yoiurself. If you are right, then good people will see that you are right. If some brainless bimbos believe everything they hear, then you are better off without them.

The advice that I can give you is keep your relatives at a distance. You don’t need to confide them, or hang out with them. Stay polite and have a chitchat if they talk to you, but keep it neutral.
You can’t change them, so change your interaction with them. Tone it down.

If they are telling a lie infront of you, or you see them behaving sneaky, then confront them (if you can).

You can’t change your parents, but you can change yourself. So don’t let anyone walk over you. Those friends who only take and never return are not real friends. The ones who do this continuously, next time they ask you for a favour, don’t do it.
What will they do? Will they stop liking you? If they do, then you definitely know that they are not worth being friends with.

No matter how hard it is, you will have to take certain actions, for your own sake. In the beginning it will be hard, but in long term you will feel better. In sha ALLAH.

And please disvuss how you feel with your parents. Don’t let it eat you from inside.

I hope you get sukoon back in your life

I wish I my aunties didn’t find out about what goes on with us but no matter how much we don’t share it, my dadi runs to her and tells her every minute detail, so much so that my auntie knows exactly what goes on in our house despite us not telling anyone. :‘( and as for my friends, well they all take me for granted and if I take drastic measures with all of them, well then I have no friends left. Theyre not bad people, just wont do much for me :’(. This means that I wont have anyone left to talk to. People hardly talk to us anyway because of the rumours about our family, and if I break up with my friends ill have no one left. How ill I make more friends? Actually how do people make more friends that will be there for you?