Re: Everyone keeps asking married people for advice. How about asking divorced people
How about shohar doing that for pyari si biwi?
Sure, why not.
But why it has to be exactly same, he should do some other chores for her. Like buying new vac, new juicer blender and better quality cleaning solution. ;)
Everyone keeps asking married people for advice. How about asking divorced people?
PCG, Im curious about what kind of life goals? Like buying a house and kids? Or do you mean more? As in, complimenting and leveraging each others goals? I agree about the families for sure! Everyone has to be on the same page. And your right, marriage should never be a deterrent. Also understanding not everything in life goes as planned sometimes.
Re: Everyone keeps asking married people for advice. How about asking divorced people
What if your life goals involve you trying to travel the world and your wife is like "No I wanna watch starplus" then what? These are the life questions that one must answer.
Re: Everyone keeps asking married people for advice. How about asking divorced people
What if your life goals involve you trying to travel the world and your wife is like "No I wanna watch starplus" then what? These are the life questions that one must answer.
Simple buddy...u buy her an ipad and buy live telecast of star plus and boom ..she's happy = you are happy :p.
Re: Everyone keeps asking married people for advice. How about asking divorced people
And remember u may do all the right things but still end up divorced, we can't control everything in life.
Re: Everyone keeps asking married people for advice. How about asking divorced people
Life goals and values like:
-I want to live out my educational ambitions - i.e. I want to accomplish that masters before I die!
-I want to write the great american novel
-I want to put together that cook book
-I want to keep pursuing my quilting club
-Friends matter most, I want to be able to play cricket with my buddies without my partner nagging me
-I like to travel, I want to be with someone that will travel with me in their spare time
-I want to give my kids the most highest level of education I possibly can, which means I will be ok with supporting them financially for a long time - my spouse should be with me on that.
-I want to keep a very religious home, all women will be wearing burqas and niqabs when going out OR I am a live and let live kind of person, the kids can pray as they want, I will not force them
-My goal in life is to be the most religious person, or the most charitable person, or the most popular person around
- I want to throw lavish parties and attend all the fashion shows - my partner should be open to that lifestyle
- I value money and jewels
- I value education
- I value music, I want my kids to grow up with music lessons and I want a piano in the house
Stuff like that, which you would think doesn't matter, but that's what life is really about - and so it does matter.
You can't have someone who values music and plays a guitar paired up with someone who wears a burqa and thinks the Guitar is the Instrument of the Devil. Just wont work.
Re: Everyone keeps asking married people for advice. How about asking divorced people
In my case I realized I was too much a feminist and the person I was looking to marry was completely an anti-feminist and thought guys should have the upper hand because they're guys. At first, I waved that on, thinking oh well, academic difference, everything will be fine. But it's not.
If you think you should have the upper hand since you're a guy, you won't like your wife having her own mind telling you where the boundaries are as to what your family members can say about her family members.
I spoke my mind, I got dumped. Did not work out. Because at the end of the day, the fundamental values were just different.
Re: Everyone keeps asking married people for advice. How about asking divorced people
And remember u may do all the right things but still end up divorced, we can't control everything in life.
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