When someone is controlling or defining you, he is
pretending that he knows what you are thinking and
feeling. They fool themselves and others into thinking
that they are right and that they know what is best.
Both the controller and the controlled lose their ability
for self awareness and the capacity to respond to
inner needs.
To understand why individuals act hurtfully or
nonsensically to others, you have to realize the
circumstances that make them behave that way. You
have to get to the root of the problem:
- People who control usually believe that their
domineering or harsh actions are necessary,
even if their behavior is totally wrong and
nonsensical. - Domineering or harsh actions against others
are utilized to further their attempts to
control. Usually, they get the opposite
reaction of what they really want. - Harsh acts against others are due to
distortion or lack of awareness of the reality.
Controllers almost always believe that they
see clearly and are aware of what is
happening - the opposite of reality.
some of the control tactics used by the
controller:
- Tightening their grip. The controller usually
does this by defining another person. Each
time he does this, he feels more secure and
even happy. - Diminishing. He let the witness feel that he
is superior and the witness inferior or smaller.
“You’re nothing without me” is an example of
a diminishing comment. - Isolating. The controller isolates the witnessfrom the former’s friends and family. This
way the witness is relying on the controller
for everything. This makes it easier for the
controller to tighten their grip over the
witness. - Verbal abuse.
- Stalking.
- Road Rage.
This is what i have researched,if someone have some idea ,how to deal with such kind of jackasses then don’t hesitate to share?This is an important issue ,might be any1 of us here are as well suffering from the same ,we hav to help other and let every1 know what is the reality of life…You hav to control many people in ur future …
u think it really works ehh
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