I really wonder how person becomes stronger and stronger after every failure… even if he/she wants to cry he/she can’t means he/she feels that he is showing his weakness… it becomes their ego problem to show their problems to their friends even. Means why we become so strong… means why i have become so strong that i can’t show my problems to my friends. I feel if i show my problems to them they will think that i am some old depressed woman who cries all the time. Means people get sick when they are really depressed or tensed but i don’t… People think i am emotionally very strong and can’t be hurt easily. But really i am not that strong… i really want to cry sometimes…
There are very few people who have friends who pampered them all the time, But i am not one of them. Whenever i try to share my problems i feel that they are irritated with my problems. They don’t want to hear my problems. But i have seen my friend who is pampered by my another friend who hears her all problems, talks non stop to her for long hours, who thinks she need his/her advice and time, and even he/she Conciliates her. why i am so unlucky in every field and every relation (Except my family).
Ok i know i am venting here but rite now i am so depressed i want to talk to anyone who can listen to me… and i think GS is a good place to venting.
Note for moderators: If you think its a useless thread then you can close this thread… becuase i know it is very random… but rite now i am not thinking straight…
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We all have good and bad people in our life. We also have people who are more sincere to us and those who are not that sincere. We should look at those people who are there for us no matter what and extend their support everytime we need them and even when we don't ask them to be there for us.
Positive attitude is to look at those people who love us unconditionally and who are always there for us. We should keep our expectations low from people. People who love us and are always there for us should also be given benefit of doubt when sometimes they aren't able to meet our expectations since they are also humans with problems and difficulties and they can sometimes be unavailable to us.
We should look at us first and analyse our behaviour with people first before judging them. We will find many faults of our own. Start giving and stop expecting. It will bring huge difference in your life.
Yes, I really believe failure makes a person strong. But you need some skill to identify your strength and work on it. Your strength will not show by itself. You need to work on it.
these is nothing wrong with venting every now and then lol. we all do that here. now fifa, life is really not that black and white. things like he or she becomes strong after failures and all that glitters is not gold and try try again and where there is a will there is a way are only the morals or aesop’s fables and life isnt a fable.
Now that you dont really open up to every friend of yours it rather a very wise behaviour of yours. Not necessarily every friend will remain a friend all life and take your out pour to their grave. the nature of the relationship between two friends varies. Sharing every thing, pampering and even talking for hours wouldnt determine a true friendship. Only time tests the friendships best and brings out the truth and validity of friendships. that being said, if you have friends in your own siblings, why need friends outside the family? blood is thicker than water, after all. so now take it all easy, even decades old friends can ditch each other at any moment. human relations, all of them, are such fragile.
I have very good friendship with my sisters and mother but i can’t tell them my problems… i don’t know why but i don’t feel comfortable in doing so… may be because they will get worried if they come to know how depressed i am. I am very good in hiding my feelings to others. My family thinks that i am very carefree girl who doesn’t have any tension in her life…
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I think that one of the toughest lessons we learn time after time (as we grow older) is that it's really tough to find good/sincere friends (and even relos, sadly) who reciprocate...and are not just interested in themselves and what they can get out of you.
I don't necessarily see it as "strength" to keep all your problems to yourself. It can even be argued that it takes courage to let go of your pride and admit your weaknesses and need for help to another person. And in most cases...all that the other person can do is advise.....and the much HARDER part...the part that requires the MOST courage/strength.....is taking the steps that YOU (as an individual) need to in order to help yourself.
As for sharing problems.....there are some people who can be trusted as confidants and know how to listen respectfully. And then there are others that like to use your own weakpoints against you and are unsupportive. I'd rather keep my problems to myself than turn to "friends" like the latter.
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I dont think being strong means you keep everything to your self..:/. I have had my share of hardships and sometimes I do share it with certain people so maybe they can gain a perspective. It depends on who you are sharing your hardships with.
They make you strong bc you dont cry over little things anymore. You know what matters and what doesnt.
Excellent advice posts from everyone. Best from Partyslims - so here we go
Maybe at this time, you are going through tough times - and typically most “friends” just want to have a good time - hence they may not take the time to listen to your problems. Bottling up emotions inside can be unhealthy - so your venting here is an excellent first step. You must consider yourself fortunate that you are part of a close-knot and affectionate family - some of us are not that fortunate
So go ahead and open up to one of your close family members - even if it feels uncomfortable.
Above all, remember that failure comes only to those who try (no this is not a cliche - it is reality). The fact that you have encountered failure is a good sign - means you are trying.
Just a week ago, there was a huge study published in a big newspaper - it said we should encourage kids/students/people to go through the process - and compliment them for trying their very best. We tend to congratulate people for their success. the article mentioned it is the PROCESS that is important. That is, how you go about applying yourself to a particular task - how you take on tough challenges - even if at first you are almost guaranteed failure. So keep on trying. It is the PROCESS, remember, not the OUTCOME, that is important.
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There will always be very few people in this world who will genuinely share your happiness & sorrows.
And we're all on GS ... "yeah!" ...
Sorry that was cheesy, but I couldn't resist ... showing your emotions is not a sign of weakness, showing your emotions is not a sign of weakness ... did I just repeat that? ... letting them control you is ... Every now and again venting or releasing emotion is required ... :)
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I really wonder how person becomes stronger and stronger after every failure.......... even if he/she wants to cry he/she can't means he/she feels that he is showing his weakness... it becomes their ego problem to show their problems to their friends even. Means why we become so strong............ means why i have become so strong that i can't show my problems to my friends. I feel if i show my problems to them they will think that i am some old depressed woman who cries all the time. Means people get sick when they are really depressed or tensed but i don't.......... People think i am emotionally very strong and can't be hurt easily. But really i am not that strong... i really want to cry sometimes.......
There are very few people who have friends who pampered them all the time, But i am not one of them. Whenever i try to share my problems i feel that they are irritated with my problems. They don't want to hear my problems. But i have seen my friend who is pampered by my another friend who hears her all problems, talks non stop to her for long hours, who thinks she need his/her advice and time, and even he/she Conciliates her. why i am so unlucky in every field and every relation (Except my family).
Ok i know i am venting here but rite now i am so depressed i want to talk to anyone who can listen to me......... and i think GS is a good place to venting.
Note for moderators: If you think its a useless thread then you can close this thread........... becuase i know it is very random.... but rite now i am not thinking straight.......
Thanks for a good listener....... or reader whatever................
It's going to take you a whole 1 year to be stronger about an issue/problem.
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It's going to take you a whole 1 year to be stronger about an issue/problem.
Its more than 1 year Hareem i am still depressed. i don't have single problem......... i have bundle of problems............... and now i am losing my hopes and i don't know how to handle them :(
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Its more than 1 year Hareem i am still depressed. i don't have single problem......... i have bundle of problems............... and now i am losing my hopes and i don't know how to handle them :(
You think you're suffering from long term depression.
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" i have bundle of problems"
This can be overwhelming. Here is a trick -
Start with the least severe problem and attack it with help from family of course. (Forget about the other problems for now).
You will solve the wasy problem - no question about it.
Now move on to the least severe problem. Repeat.
Slowly (but surely), you will address majority of your problems. For the unresolved problems, joinn the club - most of us have them too :)
I am not going to open up in front of my family member it is decided. I don’t want to share my depression with them..
as far as failures are concerned… i have failed a lot in every field of life… i am still trying but now i am getting tired of these failures.
as far as friends are concerned… i have MashaAllah good circle of friends… but i really don’t feel comfortable in opening up in front of them. may be because i am not very expressive person…
I guess so… sometimes i feel like doing something heedless things… seriously now i am feeling that i am having very serious depression problem now… I am 29 or still has yet to achieve something in life. I am complete loser in my family… My sisters achieved their aims MashaAllah but not me…
I don’t know how to handle them… rite now i am working on my career… i am still unsuccessful… i don’t know when my problems will be solved… i am trying my level best
these is nothing wrong with venting every now and then lol. we all do that here. now fifa, life is really not that black and white. things like he or she becomes strong after failures and all that glitters is not gold and try try again and where there is a will there is a way are only the morals or aesop’s fables and life isnt a fable.
