Ever felt like..

Lifestyle Relationships
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You married one of the below..

best friend
OR
safer option
OR
u know u wld be compatible with

…and not necessarily the guy u can madly deeply fall in love with?

If you did so, are you happy?

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My Hubby is more than a friend to me, he is a SAFEST option and most compatible person I could ever dream of and most importantly…he IS the one I am madly truly deeply in love with :wub:

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I married the "safer option" I guess. None of the rest really seem to apply. And I couldnt be happier with the choice.

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so demense just wondering did u have a choice to go with someone u

truly madly deeply love and possibly get ur heart broken

and

chose the safer option

or was the 'safer option' ur only choice?

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marry a complete stranger - it is always go to explore new worlds and finding a mutual ground with strangers :)

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These are questions people should have at the onset of relationships.
I would consider myself emotionally immature if I started raising these questions after marriage.

If someone has these questions in their mind after the whole shebang, well they just weren't ready for it.

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I married him coz of the safer option....I don't know what does it mean but I felt he could protect me, could provide me security etc. We became friends after a while.

The last one is an illusion.

madly deeply love thing wears off after the honeymoon period is over.

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No safer option was simply getting married to someone my parents chose when my parents chose it even though I wasnt ready for marriage as a whole at all and wasnt interested in anyone because of that.

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It wasnt my choice but happened to be the safest option for me in all terms.

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Isn't that what the OP is doing? She's asking those who've crossed the bridge if they are happy with their choice so that she can get some insight into her own situation before she takes the leap.

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this is something that would come from the real world. :k:

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I suppose.

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Shimmer, put your faith in Allah. You shant go wrong. Im very happy with the choice I made, because I put the decision on faith that Allah would make it work well.

Do an istikhara.

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what if the OP is only on to it generally? I do not see any subjective note or self revelation in the post. Its quite objective an question. And we can answer it without hitting the OP.

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i really hope that you can get over the guy you're madly and deeply in love with and you come to like and care for the safer option!

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What makes u think its a reflection of my situation? I just wanted to know that do people regret not gambling n falling in love n accept the unpredictability or compromise with the safer option and live their life with happiness n content!

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IMO Shimmer, the Nikah is magical. The nikah is such a sacred bond that the sort of love that it instills within the hearts of the nikah'ed, there is no room for second thoughts and what ifs.

Least there isnt for me.

I really feel that marriage is a bond blessed by Allah.

That said, I pray that nikah proves to be magical for every person who enters into it for I know there are bad marriages out there too. Allah sab ki hifz o imaan me rakhein

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If you are planning fall back options , then it wasn't a love to begin with . Plus the only factual love is FOOD . . . yum yum . Nothing like a soft and sweet gulab jaman . . . yum

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i will suggest you safer option