Re: etiquette question
no i dont think its rude at all.
If kids are doing that, I ask them what they need.. if they dont need anything then i tell them the kids arent allowed in the kitchen. Im more worried about things falling on them... i am prob the nasty maami or phuppo.. but really, its for their own safety. And if their parents dont say anything.. I will.
I close all room doors before people come... the ones that i dont care about, they stay open... so people know. If someone does need to go into one of the rooms thats messy.. depending on who they are, i will let them know of the situation... like if my bhabhi needs to go, cus of our informal relationship, I'll tell her how it is... i dont let others walk in and out of ours rooms :)
im so mean
and ur last point... geez thats so rude of people!! uuugh