is saying sorry without meaning it, another selfish move by a person who is selfish, weak, liar, does not know at all the value of accorded trust and is thankless on top of it all?
someone knowingly makes a huge error of judgment, with people at work; in any close relationship with a family member; with a friend; (while not being loyal or honest when the entity with which this person behaves in such a manner, was loyal and honest)even supportive and forgiving, or even to one’s own self and but especially to others.
in this situation, is there something as ethics of saying a sorry genuinely in person, that people typically will follow, those people at least who have the good in them, hopefully, but they are unable to show it?
do guilty people recognize this distinction between gracefulness and redeeming themselves when they offer an apology genuinely to the person/s they have hurt vs. when they don’t offer it because for whatever reason they feel that it will make them look weak?
presuming that such people are incapable of appreciating this choice and don’t openly say a sorry to the person who they have hurt, does it mean that they don’t know what a sorry is or they are causing harm to someone else, because obviously, they do not yet realize that offering an apology and genuinely being sorry can prevent them from further guilt?
believing in the right thing requires living it. and not living as a selfish being or to please others unreasonable demands and preferences no matter who it is.
hin33,
ur sons are a treaure, but they need to know discipline. how do they act now when they dont have to say a sorry?
if u would like to share?
best,
Dushwari
yes, that is absolutely true. it would very nice if people were like this that they saw this as useful for their own selves, even when they hurtfully live in self deception.
Dushwari
you know what, some time you have to go with that person personality for while.
You have to pretend that you are like him and you truly believe what he says.
Win his confidence then slowly mold him.
I guess I am trying to say that they are no set patterns for working with people. Thats what make it interesting.
^ again, very true. the only thing set is own honest effort to have a clear conscious.
but i think becoming like someone else is bad, as it is a lie.
you dont want a lie to live or adapt.
that leads to deception and denial of own-self and of others.
if i am getting your point correctly, then i feel that letting the person see own discordant behaviors is better.
and that, not everyone is cut out to have, they can try it though and see if they come around and develop it within their selves.
^ again, very true. the only thing set is own honest effort to have a clear conscious.
According to my mental evolution, if I look back now. I was very concerned about my conscious a while back.
That time I use to live with may family. In family ppl do judge you(some time un- unnecessarily )
It was always in back of my head that how I am going to explain a particular action of mine If asked. Plus I was an honest person so I always want to do things right for my own sake.
Now when I have lived with out family for a long time first things is gone. I don't worry how explain things. I just want to do them right.
Strange thing is after people know you for a while they start trusting you in a strange way.
I would say not on conscious level but on some other levels. Your impact on other peoples life become more significant.
I think thats way all prophets emphasis so much on your personal behavior.
You can have things done with out saying a word.
After you start knowing you self your start developing skills to how to get desired result.
For example I/my coach was concerned about my physical ability/ courage for the first week I was in he gym. Then you just know you have it in you.
Then you start planning you bouts with out getting worried about courage and stuff.
As I said you just know you have it in you.
One most important thing is the skill to minimize fraction between your self and the person you are concerned about.
acceptance of own personal responsibility to do things correctly and without confusion is really necessary as a young adult.
very very true! :>
best,
Dushwari