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im so madddd at my uncle (my mom’s mamu) !!! he called my mom from pakistan and tells her that “aap ko zara samajh hai apki beti badhi hogayi hai, ab is ki shadi karien,kia aap logon ko koi fikar nahi” and wut not… and he gave a long lecture on this..(he just called for this purpose).which my mom didn’t like…she said “ji hum apni bachi ka soch sakte hain”…his own daughter got married at the age of 25!! and im just 22..koi budhi to nahi hogayi hun :frowning: so..whos he to tell my mom about me? my parents are there to think about me!!! errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr…how do u deal with such ppl ??? :confused:

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Wikipedia: mountain out of molehill

Making a mountain out of a molehill or over-reaction is to make too much of a minor issue. In cognitive psychology, this form of cognitive distortion is called magnification.

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Telling someone else they are overeacting is a form of overeacting.

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Actually no its not. Its called a reality check.

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people always have comments

what amuses me the most is that these people didn't care about your education, well-being, health, needs, etcc but they are ready to act concerned and take part in discussions about your marriage.

and your mom handled it well, so you shouldnt be mad. some parents agree and form coalitions : D

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as CM said, its called reality check

and if its not, then telling someone that "telling someone else they are overreacting is form of overreacting" is also and overreacting :D

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Listen from one ear, throw it out from another. Why getting frustrated because of someone in PAKISTAN.

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Umm does he have a sgrandson of marriagable age? Hmmm......
It's not that big a deal though, he is an elder and I am sure his heart is in the right place....maybe he felt his daughter was married late...and what not...these sorts of comments you just listen to & move on...

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This is a great example of over reacting... LOL

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calm down everyone.

another over-reaction?

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HAHAHAH YES !!!!!!!!!!

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This is nothing...life has just begun...there will be lots more to deal with.

Sit back and enjoy the ride. :)

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Maybe he reflected on how difficult it was for him to find a rishta for his own daughter......and he was concerned about you....and didn't want you to get married at the age of 25.

Even if you were 25, that's not old. I think you're more aware and sure of who you are as a person when you pass your early twenties. You're out of the protective shell of college...you may be working, you find yourself making decisions more on your own.

Whether you get married in your early twenties, mid twenties...past that......it'll happen when it's meant to be. Develop yourself, enjoy life, things will fall into place.

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End of the day .. if your not botherred who u get married to and you know that in this matter your parents are gona hanle it .. then let them handle it however they wish .. and you DO know that every parent wants whats best for their kids .. so even if the mamu made a suggestion … then ur mother will always keep a note of it ..and when the time comes ..she may take up on the offer .. and like some one said .. elders ARE wise .. they USUALLY / MOST of the time dont wana repeat mistakes they made like u said his dawter married at 25 . and mayb it was too late …and he dont wana repeat a mistake for his relatives ..

however, if you wana marry on ur own .,… then let ya parents knw that u wana marrry 5 - 10 years later or u wana marry with your own choice .. this way ur parents wont need to look nor will ur relatives even ask for you ..:hmmm: