[FONT=Times New Roman]I don’t know if this post belongs here but please don’t move it.
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[FONT=Times New Roman]so say that a person decides to get married based on a positive feeling they had when a rishtah came through and then after the engagement they were allowed to speak to each other and it seemed to go well. but all of a sudden for no real reason and in a very short space of time a person might start thinking negatively about the other (even though the only mistake the other person made was to forget to do something really small) even though they think the other person doesn’t think badly of them. although they know the other person isn’t wrong and is in actual fact if you were to ignore the minor mistake they are everything they wanted in that person, why would that person think like this? what could be the reasoning behind it? although the person openly admits to having had no expectations beforehand on marriage…what is it then? is it trust issues? do they unknowingly not want it to work? are they scared? I don’t understand it and hence can’t advise my friend. What do you think?
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[FONT=‘Times New Roman’]the only thin I’ve said so far is negative thoughts make a person appear to be negative and positive thoughts have the opposite effect. hence by thinking positive things will seem better and minor annoyances will occur..but that doesn’t help the person
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sorry i meant minor annoyances will occur but they have to be overlooked in order to succeed in life and marriage etc.
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eww why has it come up saying font.
i wrote it in word first so i wouldn't submit by accident and post more than necessary...oops that didn't work.
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marrying someone is a biggg decision..and tht someone needs to remember that noone is perfect. Try to over look little mistakes and look the big picture...I think tht since shadi is such a big decision that while trying to make up ur mind u pick up on little things..things tht shld not even matter.