you are not alone alone hun... obviously from these responses...... go back to last year and I could have written your entire post line for line myself. By the time my wedding came I was so over it and felt like everyone had taken the fun out of it. My advice is to make sure to put your foot down when it comes down to your wedding outfits and the overall appearances... if you look your best on your big day..... you will feel great and the other stuff and dramay will be forgotten. And that is another thing...once the big day comes ... realize that things are out of your hand..you have done all that you could have..and focus on enjoying those days. You are a bride ONLY ONCe.... always remember that. Dont let their interference get to you. And yes - look forward to the life ahead of you..... inshAllah with less interference.
But yea... make sure you get your way with your overall looks for the events. You want to feel like you looked your very best...and those pics and videos are forever ... when u see them ..u want to smile because of how fabulous you looked as a bride... u want to have no regrets.
The thing is that i am not even close to a Bridezilla or some one controlling or some one having her way for everything. There are hardly a few things I want my way and even they have to be filled with opinions!
e.g. I want a few dresses for dinners and because I know they will come in use and every one keeps telling me .. Nope! You wouldn’t need any in UK. Hello? Hubby has a big social circle there, i have relatives there, there will be weddings & dinners to attend .. why do I not need eastern clothes there?
**Makeup- **That is one thing I don’t want intervention in. I am too touchy & picky about it and have done my research to be talking about. Every one talks just from their OWN experience & enforce it that don’t go for this place, don’t go for that. Now I have decided to not ask or tell any one, do my research & book a place. Its my face & I know what suits me more.. people will be picking & commenting anyway so be it!
Wedding day dress - Oh not this colour, not this kaam, not this that blah blah!
… and the list goes on!
I am glad my in-laws and parents are not the intervening sort but they don’t realize when they are over doing their love. Its a lot of money they spend on things which we wouldn’t even care about.
Hee hee, I think probably most people on this board have been there!
It really helps to do stuff unrelated to the wedding and just take a break from it for a while.
I feel like it's also really important for the relationship (with the fiance) to keep having good conversations about stuff totally unrelated to the wedding. Go out for a movie or something... :)
