Re: Equality in Marriage…
This is a big red flag. Many couples share expenses and that’s fine. But for him to be so inflexible on 50/50 arrangement is not a good thing. I think he likes the idea of it…but in reality, he has no clue what he’s talking about.
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He wants to do 50% of the cooking/cleaning that’s great…but does he know how to do it? Does he do his own laundry right now? When was the last time he vacummed/mopped the floor or scrubbed the toilets? Does he know how to cook meals? Not making a sandwich or microwaving stuff…actually cooking a proper meal from scratch? Ask these questions. Many men (especially desi) can say they’ll do 50% of the housework…but that doesn’t mean they can actually do it. And if they literally can’t do something (or refuse to do it) after the wedding, you’re stuck doing it all.
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What about when you get pregnant? Does he expect you to work until the day you give birth? Does he expect you go return to work as soon as maternity leave is over? Are you really 100% sure that you won’t want to stay home with the baby at least for a few years?
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What if you get laid off or get sick/have an accident and can’t work? How will he feel about paying 100% then? Does he make enough money to actually support a family (wife and let’s say 2 kids)?
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How will savings work?
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I don’t understand this concept of splitting vacations.
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Ask him when was the last time he changed a baby’s diaper. After all, if there is a baby, taking care of that baby should be 50/50 too right?
What exact amount of money he pays to his parents for their mortgage, is he ok with you taking out that exact amount and keeping it for yourself?