Re: Entertainment at a religious wedding
I quite agree with TLK. I don't know if this is cultural but I don't understand this idea of "entertainment" at weddings, especially the "stage show" type of entertainment people have mentioned. Isn't attending the wedding, socialising, and mingling with people that you don't see on a regular basis the entertainment?
Re: Entertainment at a religious wedding
Weddings are not for entertaining guests, people. WEDDINGS ARE NOT FOR ENTERTAINING GUESTS.
For God sake, if they want to be entertained, they can go to Umar Shareef stage drama. They come there to be part of your happiness, not to watch a show.
Here are my suggestions.
1) Make sure that people sit around Banquet style tables so they can socialize. 2) Have a printed program at every table so people know the arrival of barat time, nikah time and dinner time, and strictly follow that schedule. People get bored when things are getting delayed and they have no idea what is going on. 3) Have hosts on both men and women side keep going from table to table for small talk with every guest, and introduce guests on each table to each other, so they can socialize. It's very irritating when family from both sides keep giggling at their reserved tables, while rest of the guests sit at back tables like ulloos. 4) Have plenty of appetizers available from the beginning. No one feels bored when they are eating. 5) if possible, have a separate section for kids with some games and stuff for them. Have an adult or two there all the time to watch. 6) Have good items for dinner.
At the end, no one will remember your wedding for the theme or entry songs or dance numbers, but for the arrangement, food and on schedule execution.
This pretty much.
I enjoy both kind of weddings but I really like the segregated once because for some reason, the girls just mingle around a lot more if their husbands aren't around.
I would say desi segregated weddings are more a cultural thing than a religious one since the groom/male family members do enter the girls side while in arab culture they do it more properly i.e no males or just for a limited time but I think that's because a lot of them do hijab plus they wear pretty revealing clothes :p
Re: Entertainment at a religious wedding
Well, I am from a nation of pick and choose muslims. How could we disappoint in weddings.
Anyway, I suppose I would care more about what the bride feels comfortable in then anyone else. If she's not comfortable then who cares how happy the guests are. To have to go above and beyond for guests is another version of log kya kahen gay which is a statement I'm sure none of us care for.
Re: Entertainment at a religious wedding
Well, I am from a nation of pick and choose muslims. How could we disappoint in weddings.
Anyway, I suppose I would care more about what the bride feels comfortable in then anyone else. If she's not comfortable then who cares how happy the guests are. To have to go above and beyond for guests is another version of log kya kahen gay which is a statement I'm sure none of us care for.
Not only that, but one can never really win anyway. People will always find something to whinge about.
Re: Entertainment at a religious wedding
Weddings are not for entertaining guests, people. WEDDINGS ARE NOT FOR ENTERTAINING GUESTS.
For God sake, if they want to be entertained, they can go to Umar Shareef stage drama. They come there to be part of your happiness, not to watch a show.
Here are my suggestions.
1) Make sure that people sit around Banquet style tables so they can socialize. 2) Have a printed program at every table so people know the arrival of barat time, nikah time and dinner time, and strictly follow that schedule. People get bored when things are getting delayed and they have no idea what is going on. 3) Have hosts on both men and women side keep going from table to table for small talk with every guest, and introduce guests on each table to each other, so they can socialize. It's very irritating when family from both sides keep giggling at their reserved tables, while rest of the guests sit at back tables like ulloos. 4) Have plenty of appetizers available from the beginning. No one feels bored when they are eating. 5) if possible, have a separate section for kids with some games and stuff for them. Have an adult or two there all the time to watch. 6) Have good items for dinner.
At the end, no one will remember your wedding for the theme or entry songs or dance numbers, but for the arrangement, food and on schedule execution.
You've put my mind at ease. Thank you.