Entering Womanhood

What is our cultural custom, if any, of a woman’s first period and the discussion that goes on around that?

I’m watching the Cosby show, because apparently, I have that much time on my hands, and there is this episode where Rudy gets her period and the mom and her sisters are getting ready to talk to her.

I remember when I got my first period…

First off, I thought I was dying. I was visiting Pakistan, and I thought I got some disease. I got sick with every trip, and this time I was like Shizz, I’m exsanguinating.

I bled for THREE DAYS. I hid all the evidence.

(Never occurred to my mom that I was hiding something. Ridiculous. The stuff, looking back now, I could have gotten away with. )

Then I finally told her, and got ready for the yelling that usually came with me getting sick - the usual lectures of you don’t eat properly and drink enough water, and then you get sick and we have to pay doc fees which we cannot afford.

Jesus Christ.

Her reaction: Hai ma, periods aa gayaein.

I had learned about menstruation like 3 months prior in sex ed, and I was like…

Oh…yeah…so, I’m not bleeding to death. Cool.

She told EVERYONE in my frikkin family, cuz every time I would start reading namaaz, every aunty in the house would hush me away from the janaamaaz. OMG, I LOVED HAVING MY PERIOD. The only time in that house where they INSISTED I do not pray. :hehe:

But anyhoo. Are pakistani parents open enough about this topic? kinda get annoyed that topics like this are so taboo, and I have to learn about them from school. In Pakistan, they don’t even have sex ed, so they get all their info about their v-j-j’s from off the street. Why are parents in Pakistan so frikkin lax??

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:rotfl: this is so damn funny … not that the subject is funny … just remembered what “I THOUGHT” had happened to me … hahahahah … only that my evidence got caught :stuck_out_tongue:

and nope .. i had no idea whatsoever … no sex-ed in school .. no conversation EVER at home … no elder cousins to spoil me … so yeah … :heykitty:

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Yeah I remember my first wet dream too. It was weird :/

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Get Out. No men issues here.

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buri baat...itnaa khullam khulla poochhing hehe...me ko sharam aa gaii...hahaha...ab u kii shaadii kisi taliban ke ghar nahiiN ho paayegii...hahaha :D

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Yeah, because that was plan C if plan A (The Lizard) and plan B (the Anti-Lizard) didn’t work out. :rolleyes:

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is ur reply in response to my comment? hehe

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I remember my first period. I was in Kindergarten, my teahcer's name was Miss Bano and the period was 45 minutes long. It was uncomfortable. I mean to make a 4 years old sit through that without running around is a torture for that kid, I am telling you.

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^:rotfl:

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The place I come from, the whole mithai khilana, phool pehnana etc etc thing used to be done (not sure if it still happens). Oh the horror. Thank god for my mawdern amma.

As for the education or the lack thereof, I never thought it was a big deal. I was meh about it even then.

I went to a co-ed school and some incidents involving friends were funny and memorable.

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PCG, parents dont talk about the birds and the bees when girls get a visit from Aunt Flo. Mostly, girls are shocked and moms think its hilarious. Relatives say things like “mubarak hoooooooooooo…bachi bari hogayeeeeeee”…you know…stuff like that.

One of my friends’ family actually threw a party for her!!! :rotfl: She got gold because she was now baligh and that meant wedding bells!

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@princessjojo: Same with mine!! But I was not with my parents...I was with my relatives...and they wanted to have a celebration!!!! I had to put my foot down on that one!!! :o

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I thought the celebration was only a Hyderabadi thing?

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I remember my first Periods. I hated Math class, it never ended seemed like an eternity.

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No, they do it in Sri Lanka too!!!! grrrrrrrrrr....so embarrassing..am glad they gave me the choice phew

But I do remember one girl in the neighbourhood who had a big party...and she was soooooo proud welcoming all the guests...oh well...who cares she was happy abt it!

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This thread has taken me down memory lane and I can't stop laughing about things!

Aaliyahkhan, I totally feel your situation, though I was lucky enough to dodge it. lol.

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Thank You PCG!

Hell with the thread, I could not find so much "Reality Humor" else where on the forums!
Thoroughly engulfed ! :D

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TLK :hehe:

PCG, it’s usually such a hush hush affair in our culture and I think it’s because no one wants to embarass the poor devasted girl.

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At last :d6c:

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firenze, how can she be da man when she is talking about a very womanly experience? :smack: