Re: enough of the lop-sidedness of this issue!
thanks, everybody. Niksik, you got it right, what i mean to say is that a society becomes able to allow loop holes, in the context of character in terms of moral behaviors between two genders, when everybody will take their responsibility for all related actions which they engage in happen to them. blaming Islam for opression and thereby being a pervert is abnoxious thought.
no where have we ever read in hadith or in Quran that for heterosexual human beings, sexuality is denied by Islam, for either gender - female or male. we all know the rights taught to us, of women and men, as couples. so, when people who want to contaminate the name of the faith with their wrong doing, make the convenient judgement against Islam, that Islam is pushing them to do this, is a an argument as unclean as a scum-bucket.
at least, such people should take their own responsibility for any of their amoral bad actions.
for instance, Arab women and men - just by looking at their videos, one can tell, either it is thoughtless copying of indecent programming and so called entertainment of other regions of the world, or that there is something that these people, in their real life imagine to have, but they can't.
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being on the left side is not an issue. the drawing of the line as to how slippery that left or right, for that matter, will become, is however an impt thing to determine.
decency in relationships based on ethics is the best recipe for a social impression on the opposite gender, or people from other value systems, cultures and faiths, than blindly following and practicing the bad, risk-ridden amoral manners to seek sexual attention or give it to like minded people. such people destroy homes, bring bad name to their selves and it is that much harder for them to be able to reclaim their selves as belonging to Islam as their faith.
it is a very subtle and hidden cloak kind of a phenomenon, enabling oneself enough grace and personal power to walk around in the same society and culture, which is known for amorality. it only takes a sure decision to act morally. bottom line is: people born to Islam, ought not be able to make this lousy excuse, that they are burdened by lack of self expression due to their religion and strict culture and thereby, they fall to the levels of amoral behaviors. they ought to instead, begin respecting their selves and prevent unhealthy curiosity and worsening trend of amoral living, among their next generation. that, choice is theirs to make and make it truthfully and make it fast.