I wore the dupatta on my head when I got engaged (this past december!). I wore my hair down though and pinned the dupatta further back. My jewelery was VERY simple ...I felt like this kept my look from being "too dulhan" ... but still set me apart from all the other guests. I figure that inshAllah when the time for me comes to get married, I will be wearing my hair up and be wearing a much heavier dress and obviously heavier jewelery.
Do whatever you think will look good on you! Its a very special occassion in your life. :)
i wanna see you pictures. PLEASE!!!