I do not think you are being too rigid/conservative at all Mahi. I think doing an engagement shoot is bases on personal preference and the 2 families ideals and values. They are becoming more and more common here in the states with the love-marriage couples… because they see american western couples do this (as it is in their culture) and are adopting it as well. In america, almost every gora couple I know has had an engagement shoot…they usually use a pic or a couple pics later on when they send “Save the Dates”. It makes sense for them to do a shoot since they dont have actual engagement functions or ceremonies of any sort that are captured on film. So whatever. But just like other customs that have been adopted … such as bride holding a bouquet, having “bridesmaids”, giving out wedding favors, the whole engagement ring itself, etc… this is just another one to add to the list that some Pakistani love marriage couples are taking upon.
Because it is already part of the american “culture” here… that is why its being done… i don’t see it becoming common in Pakistan for some time now… if ever.
The style of these shoots are too forward in my opinion… I am having a love marriage but I know exactly how my family is… shoots like this would not fly. :nono: So I guess even here.. it depends on one’s family cultural thinking ..even if you having a luv marriage.
Completely agree… its too much and might be something they want JUST FOR THEMSELVES … but definitely should not be shown to others. At weddings …its inappropriate.
I have been to weddings where slideshows are quite cute where they have pics of the couple as kids growing up. That is sweet. Lots of family pics… and the only “couple pics” are also posed pics are engagement pics… and proper pics of them (usually with their families at functions) after the engagement. If they had a nikkah before, a pic or two is included of that as well. That sort of “love story” slideshow is fine in my opinion.
A slideshow showcasing one’s “legit” love story is too much… and can be very awkward for guests. One of my best friends dad was telling us a story that they went to a wedding recently where there was one of these kind of slideshows… there were pics of the couple in the pajamas and other inappropriate type of pics. Uncle was absolutely horrified and made a big point saying how incredibly inappropriate and wrong it was for this sort of slideshow with these kind of pics to be shown. This uncle himself is EXTREMELY MODERN… probably the one of the most westernized and modern uncles I know…super easy going. So u know its bad when he is calling someone out on something. 
He said that there are certain “moments” that should be kept private… and there is no point of sharing them with every single guest at your wedding. He and auntie both felt really uncomfortable. So even with modern and forward thinking communities I think… they wouldn’t be a fan of this… it just isn’t classy. Not the time or place…