A friend of mine was just talking to me and she was really upset/depressed. She has been together with this guy for a few years now (both are desis) but the guy’s family has had no talks with her family about engagement yet. The girl has met the family even though the families have not and the mom of the girl is worried because she wants a timeframe of atleast an engagement. The mother of the guy is apparently making no efforts to visit them (they live in different states) and she and the other mother have only talked once. The father of the guy is comparitively more vocal and seems happy but the mother never really talks about it. She seemed cordial and nice when she met the girl but she isn’t very vocal about what she plans regarding their engagement. The girl has talked to the guy many times about this and he keeps saying that he will talk to her. Even though the girl can wait and be patient, it puts the parents in an awkward position because they want an answer. What do you guys think he or she should do?
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A friend of mine was just talking to me and she was really upset/depressed. She has been together with this guy for a few years now (both are desis) but the guy's family has had no talks with her family about engagement yet. The girl has met the family even though the families have not and the mom of the girl is worried because she wants a timeframe of atleast an engagement. The mother of the guy is apparently making no efforts to visit them (they live in different states) and she and the other mother have only talked once. The father of the guy is comparitively more vocal and seems happy but the mother never really talks about it. She seemed cordial and nice when she met the girl but she isn't very vocal about what she plans regarding their engagement. The girl has talked to the guy many times about this and he keeps saying that he will talk to her. Even though the girl can wait and be patient, it puts the parents in an awkward position because they want an answer. What do you guys think he or she should do?
why all the boys act strange last time??
sorry but i had to say that, I would tell your friend to have agood chat with the boy, let her make things clare, a good chat over the phone or face to face doesn't matter how they really have to talk with each other.
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she needs to give the guy a time-frame or geta time-frame from him. He needs to talk to his mother and make her aware of his desire to get engaged that is IF he has any desire to get engaged to your friend. If he fails to talk to her within that time-frame I don't think she should wait for him and waste her time.
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:k:
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she needs to give the guy a time-frame or geta time-frame from him. He needs to talk to his mother and make her aware of his desire to get engaged that is IF he has any desire to get engaged to your friend. If he fails to talk to her within that time-frame I don't think she should wait for him and waste her time.
yup i agree, this is exactly wht she shoul do
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she needs to give the guy a time-frame or geta time-frame from him. He needs to talk to his mother and make her aware of his desire to get engaged that is IF he has any desire to get engaged to your friend. If he fails to talk to her within that time-frame I don't think she should wait for him and waste her time.
couldnt agree more
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how typical. put all the blame on guy’s mother and you keep on pampering the guy for being inconsiderate towards the whole issue. amazing!. :halo:
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^i am putting the blame on BOTH of them. i dont understand why everyone has to get so touchy if even one finger is raised towards the mother in law. jeez.
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I think this guy just wants to hit that and leave.
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thats the sorta feeling i get in this case, but then again we cant assume that cuz if thats was the case then the guy would not have introduced the girl to the family in the first place. :k:
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I don't think the guy is trying hard enough (from what is told). If the guy really does want to marry her, he would talk to his mother & persuade her that he likes this girl & wants to marry her. Then his mother & the girls mother can be in talks of how to proceed...or at least to get to know each other. I agree with giving him a timeline & see if he follows through.
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I don't think the guy is trying hard enough (from what is told). If the guy really does want to marry her, he would talk to his mother & persuade her that he likes this girl & wants to marry her. Then his mother & the girls mother can be in talks of how to proceed...or at least to get to know each other. I agree with giving him a timeline & see if he follows through.
but by the looks of it the mother is not too keen about this marriage or the girl.
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update: the parents have talked and are meeting up to decide on a date for engagement. the guy is serious and so is the family, do not know what the hold up from the mom's side was about. anyway, thanks for the replies!
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yayyyyyyyyy, mubarak ho :k:
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glad that worked out!