~Engagement at home~

Desi_BeauTii · May 5, 2009, 2:19am

Hellooo my dear friends…

I need help on decoration ideas for an engagement party. I need to know how to decorate the bride and grooms sitting area as well as the rest of the house. PLease help!!! PIX would be very helpful!!! Thanks in advance!!!

Desi_BeauTii · May 8, 2009, 2:01pm

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Ok so this is kinda what i want to go for . Does anyone know where I can get the pink drapes in the background at a decent price? Wat kind of material would it be? Fabric or crepe?

Also, is the decor for the engagement supposed to match the bride or is nothig supposed to match the bride.

People please help, my engagement is very soon!

rabia3983 · May 8, 2009, 2:38pm

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I wouldn't match with the bridal outfit cuz thn everything will blend in...i would pick a color that complement her outfit.
as for the fabric, have you tried an indian sari store...u can get a sari and use that...but make sure the material isn't too shiny (thatsmakes the pictures come out crazy)

stoppit · May 8, 2009, 2:38pm

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Sheer Chiffon and Georgette Fabrics-Buy Online-Abakhan Fabrics

Desi_BeauTii · May 8, 2009, 3:16pm

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Stoppit - I need a fabric store that i can buy this from. I live in the US.

Rabia- You are saying use pink... just another shade??

stoppit · May 8, 2009, 3:32pm

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oh yea.. i dunno why for some reason i thought you lived in the UK, lol.

anyways, you should be able to get cheap chiffon or georgette from any fabric store, especially indian ones. or even online in the US i'm sure.. i was looking at UK sites, since i thought you were in the UK.

i think rabia is trying to say don't go with the same colour that is the most predominant in your outfit. i think that was pink? but you had other colours in there too... chose one of them to bring colour to your deco so that there will be coordination but you will still stand out :)

aliyahali · May 8, 2009, 3:47pm

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Whilst your outfit was nice, I wouldn't go OTT with the pink, you don't want it to look like Barbie's engagment.

Desi_BeauTii · May 8, 2009, 3:48pm

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Aliyahali- I dont??? LOLLL

Stoppit- thanks... I think i have some good ideas. My outfit is magenta, so i was thinking about going with link pink with the decor? Or should is stick to desi colors, red, green, and yellow??

aliyahali · May 8, 2009, 3:53pm

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Why don't you go for gold, and then add some magenta accents to go with your outfit,
or if you don't want the accents, then add some roses, or other table decorations in the magenta.

Also, what is your fiance wearing?

You don't want it to match your outfit completely and have it clash with his.

Desi_BeauTii · May 8, 2009, 4:02pm

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Hes gonna wear a pink dress shirt to match me... i think...

Tklucky8 · August 31, 2009, 11:42am

Need creative ideas!

Hello,

I am having a small engagement ceremony at home next week.
I was thinking of making those flower bracelets at home.
Since i am in chicago, i have very few choices in flowers.

I was thinking of using red roses with white carnations in order to get that white and red look.

Any other ideas for it??

Also,
Other then exchange of rings, what other rasams can be done in a engagement ceremony? Our family don't really do engagement ceremony so that's why i am clueless.

_kitty · November 14, 2009, 7:48pm

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salaam!

i was wondering if you guys could tell me what happpens in engagements? also what rasam r there? and gifts ect to be given?

tinker_bell · November 14, 2009, 9:04pm

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My engagement was a living room affair. It was my family, my khala's family, my 4 best friends. His family, his 2 khala's families n his 2 best friends. We exchanged rings. had some music, a bit of dance by my sis and my cousins n his cousins n sis. My frdz got me gifts. his khala's/parents gave me money. Also, I got few gifts from his cousins. Our family gave him money/gifts. We had dinner that my khala n mom cooked. I got ready at home n did my own make up/hair. People just fed us cake with spoon as i HATE mithai! lol. :)

somegroovychick · November 15, 2009, 1:20am

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ours was at home too. his closest family + mine. we sat together and everyone fed us mithai and gave us money. my parents got us matching watches and my mom put them on his hand and mine. i had my hair and makeup done and i was wearing a white and red lehenga my parents bought. oh, and we exchanged rings. and took LOTS of pictures- it was like being in a papparazzi storm because our families are so trigger happy with their cameras haha
afterwards we had dinner that his parents had catered.
regardless of the scale you do it on, make it special. its a special occasion, after all :)

PunjabiRose · November 23, 2009, 8:56am

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Salaams everyone! This forum is amazing for giving/getting advice and the time has for come for me to ask for some! This is my first post and I hope someone can help me out/give me some input!

InshAllah my engagement will be held soon and it is something that has just been decided! My fiance-to-be decided to surprise me by having his parents ask my parents for my hand in marriage. Everyone is very happy and I am as well (and surprised that he is ready for this next step in our relationship!) :) . Unfortunately, I live in the US and all of my relatives live in Pakistan. So we have decided to have a small ceremony at my house and not make this into something big.

What are the usual customs that come along with having an engagement in our culture? I am also the eldest in my khandaan and the first to get engaged! We are all a bit clueless! haha. Does anyone have any ideas of things that should be done at this ceremony? Other than our immediate families, a few of my closest friends are planning to come.

Also, we are a bit confused about the gift giving traditions here in the US. We have been told by some people that it is not done here and only done so in Pakistan. Some people tell us that this is only a punjabi rasam (my fiance-to-be's family is from karachi originally). So if anyone can shed light on this- it would be awesome! Also - if it is the norm to exchange gifts - what is the appropriate things to give to the groom's family?

So although this is going to be a small event at my house and none of my relatives will be able to attend- I still want it to make it as special and as memorable as I can. Any help from you wonderful ladies will be great. Thank you so much!

rabia3983 · November 23, 2009, 4:57pm

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Congratulation!!!

Are u talking abt gift giving to the Groom and his family???
I m frm Karachi and we pratice that too...we gave him his outfit for the engagement, along with another shirt, a pair of pants, a set of cologne, and of course the ring.
An outfit for each of his sister, and parents as well.

we also provided mithai (Laddoo) as favor for the event (in pakistan they come in boxes already...but i have seen them here in the US as well...i guess u can buy regular favor boxes and use Laddoo instead of candy).

thats all i knw. hope it helps. good luck

hinah786 · November 23, 2009, 8:29pm

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Congrats! I remember for an engagement in our family that we (the guys side) took around 7-8 baskets fillied with assortments of mithai and a fruit basket, a nut basket, etc, that we all decorated, it was so much fun! We got her a ring, and her outfit, churiyan, shoes, jewelry for the engagement. All our relatives gave her money and a gift.
I'm sure it will be memorable no matter what! :)

rozyuk · November 24, 2009, 12:53am

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Congrats huni, on my engagement we got the guy a ring, cufflinks and shirt, and gave shirts to his dad and grandad, present for sister also suits for mum and 2 grans also gave mithai

they bought me my suit i wore that day including jewerlley bangles, also gave me another suit

they guys side also brought loadz of ladoos in boxes and baskets and baskets of sweets

hope this helps

r x

PunjabiRose · November 25, 2009, 6:40am

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Thanks so much for all of your insight guys! So it seems that someone has misguided us by telling us that only punjabi people practice gift giving. I am glad that I know differently now and can help my family plan accordingly. We are not giving him a ring and instead a designer watch. By western standards, the guy does not get an engagement ring. So my mom figured that if we are going to have this nice tradition (that is not islamic), that we might as well do it their way. Only the girl gets a ring. But obvi the guy should have a nice memorable present as well to remember the day. Hence the watch. By the way: I really like the cufflink and cologne idea! :) I think they will be a good addition as gifts to my fiance to be along with the watch!. Your advice has helped girls.

Also thank you for the congratulations!