Allah is our creator; he is the one who has created us with all kinds of emotions and feelings. And if these feelings are misused then that takes and individual towards sins. If the same feelings are used according to the law and will of Allah; we will be successful in this life and in the hereafter, HOW?
Every single lady and man is under the opinion that it is too early, or that they are not ready, or financially weak.
Shaitân (Satan) threatens you with poverty and orders you to commit Fahshâ (evil deeds, illegal sexual intercourse, sins etc.); whereas Allâh promises you Forgiveness from Himself and Bounty, and Allâh is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knower. (2:268)
OPINIONS ON EARLY MARRIAGE:
Allah has created mankind will all kinds of feelings, which is acquired at the age of puberty. Every boy or girl suffers internally, but are scared of society, or that they would be laughed at, because of there young age.
Today, what is seen on TV, or magazines, or newspapers, it is very hard for anyone, to pass his life, without committing any sins. Within everyone’s mind’s, they are under the impression that what they are doing is not a major sin, like adultery. But, if one looks closely, whenever an individual’s eyes see the opposite sex, and all sorts of feelings are developed, and enjoyment takes place, this is the beginning of committing adultery. Is this a sin?
This is like a cancer, that only starts with a single cell, that eventually spreads to the entire body. When an individual looks in the mirror, he wants to make sure, that they are appreciated by the opposite sex, when an individual wears clothes and gets ready, he would like to make it attractive to the opposite sex.
A single person only has half iman “hadeeth”.
WHEN ONE IS NOT READY
Individuals look at responsibilities around them, such as, school, not completed education, or too young. Aspects such as education have no limit, whoever is willing to learn in today’s world, is easy, if one really is keen on gaining knowledge. Whoever is only after status, for example, after completing university, then there is no experience in the right field, most of the time, because of lack of experience, one has to have his line changed, with only a hand full-left successful individuals.
FINANCIAL PROBLEMS
Any individual cannot be found, who is financially strong or not, and is not suffering internally in their heart. Every day they have a feeling that their day has not been completed, and their desires are not fulfilled, which has nothing to do with money. And they are always feeling empty, that something is missing. Which Satan, shows all kinds of attractions, so we may keep our self busy without realizing that our souls are suffering inside as a single person. We always look towards having fake status, success, and achievements fulfilled. But with an empty heart, and their really is no one there who really would appreciate and admire the handwork towards life. And no one fulfills their needs, even parents, although they work hard towards their child and feel happy that their child is successful in his goals. And they feel like they are fulfilling their dreams. It only is a spouse, because they are part of your body, they feel really complete, and that they have gained something.
Satan always shows that you would never have enough money, in order to support yourself. How will you support your wife, and then your children after marriage?
Satan has made us do another kind of shirk. Because we are saying that we are the providers for our wife and children. Because when you get married, you complete yourself. If you are not married you are half, as our beloved Prophet taught us.
Lets realize how?
When you are single, you are half. Your share of wealth from Allah is only half. When you get married. Allah opens your wisdom, and the doors to open to earn more, according to our requirements. After having children, Allah starts to send more blessings, according to our needs. The child’s needs financial requirements would be fulfilled by Allah. The reason why budgets fail is when we want to make sure how we look in society. And start to spend in unnecessary things, those ideas are from Satan, which fails our budget, which disturbs family life.
Whenever people start to worry about what will happen after their baby would be born, while already having two or three children. The way people think, Allah makes the situation accordingly, because Allah is truly the only provider for his creations.
And this is another reason why people are suffering around the world. Instead of relying on the blessings of Allah on the babies, they think it is a burden, and it does become a burden for their children and spouse.
Today’s mother and father, instead of planning for the future of the baby. How will they train him according to the laws of the Qur’an, and the sunnah (examples) of the Prophet. During pregnancy, the mother passes her time, in order to keep herself busy, by watching movies, and getting involved in other forms of entertainment. Most of the time, during pregnancy, Satan gives depression and doubts, if she is not a practicing Muslim. As research shows, during the time of pregnancy, the mother’s activities, thinking, are developed in the baby. If the mother is a practicing Muslim, then her activities would be things like prayer, seeking help from Allah, and realizing the greatness of Allah’s powers. Because, Allah and his messenger guarantee that Satan has lost all hope. How can Satan have lost all of his hope?
If we practice Islam, and always mention the name of Allah. Satan will never come close to us, because Satan knows Allah’s powers better than we do. So he leaves that place immediately. When we are not involved in the practice of Islam, then naturally we fall within the control of Satan. He would control our brain, and our daily life actions and routines.
Being a mother or father, it is important to be more careful. In order to seek Allah’s help, and refuge from Satan. Satan attacks more when a family starts to grow. Even before the birth of the baby, he wants to make sure that he involves the mother and father deeper in worldly affairs. Most of the time, the mother looks for unnecessary things, with the excuse that it is for her baby, which she is never able to ever use. The most important thing is, to seek Allah’s help, and to make sure that the baby is healthy and the wishes for the baby to be raised only according to what Allah wills. And the father starts to worry, what to do. Because the expenses are rising.
I never saw, anyone who is complete and satisfied before marriage. If one is not married, he always is disturbed internally. His soul always suffers, because of an ego he or she would never convey it to anyone else.
If possible the age for nikkah for a girl is before the age of maturity. Or after maturity, as soon as possible. Because, before involving in any other worldly thing, she will be able to start to focus the future of her life. Because her efforts should be towards raising her future generations. She is the one who really starts to think about the smallest things for her home.
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