Enabling people who don't learn from their mistakes

[mizsani]

Re: Enabling people who don’t learn from their mistakes

@Siren

Have you ever done it? How do you stop yourself from giving into them?

Personally, I feel like I’ve been enabling my husband and I don’t know how to stop. He has a superhero complex and wants to do everything for everyone (without even stopping to consider how he will do it). He spoils both his sisters rotten, which is fine because bothers do that. The younger one is well settled but the older one’s husband can’t seem to be progressing as fast in his career as he would like so he wants to move from Pakistan to Canada. Hearing this, hubby proposes we bring sister to Canada to live with us (all expenses paid ofcourse) and pay for her masters as well. He made this offer without even mentioning it to me (forget asking for my opinion). I know he doesn’t have the money for it and will eventually ask me to honour his promise. He has done this to me several times before and I fear my acquiescence in the past has given him the idea that he can get away with promising anyone anything. I was trying to be a supportive wife when he pulled this with his parents, but enough is enough!

If my husband did this, I would ask him with a straight face whether he won the lottery because I certainly will not be his bank for this adventure.