Re: Emotionally to physically Abusive Relationship
Having no father is better ... by far better than having someone who torments your mother. What is to stop him losing his temper at the kids...who will she run to if god forbid "jokingly" he hurt the kids? Let her take some form of action. It does not have to be drastic like the cops if she dont want, but some form of intervention. She has to confide in someone his or her family/community member...sooner rather that later. Or else she too may feel responsible for what her kids go through. As for providing for the kids...she has to have faith. People will help her out perhaps to stand on her own two feet and it will be tough...but it may not come to a separation if somehow he does see sense. Please let her ask for help.
You as a friend owe it to her. I know of an ongoing case of an asian couple. The wife, a professonal dentist, is accused of stabbing her husband. She claims it was an accident. He shouted at her and told her to go on her knees and tell him "i'm sorry sir" several times. And then he grabbed a knife and lunged at her, but in that struggle, he got hurt and stab himself. Now the saddest part is that their son witness this and said in court that the mother grab the knife and stab hubby. Imagine having to accuse your mother of killing your father.
This is far fetched ... but if you say she thinking of defending herself...she will do so in a moment of insanity...and it could well turn tragic.
Help her out!!