Wow. He clearly didn’t get the message. He probably interpreted her disinterest as some weird form of playing hard to get. Maybe he wants to move to the Middle East? 
cutie1, is there a close cousin who knows you don’t like this future fiance of yours? Maybe he/she can explain to your cousin that he’s going to ruin both his life and yours if he marries you.
LOL…you know what would be funny? If the close cousin that she gets to do the “splaining” to him…is a male…and the cousin who likes her assumes that he has competition.
Or…if she were to get a single female cousin (around the same age group as her) to explain to the ever persistent cousin…that Cutie is not interested…and he mistakes it for HER (the female cousin) being jealous/interested in him.
LOL...you know what would be funny? If the close cousin that she gets to do the "splaining" to him....is a male........and the cousin who likes her assumes that he has competition.
Or....if she were to get a single female cousin (around the same age group as her) to explain to the ever persistent cousin....that Cutie is not interested....and he mistakes it for HER (the female cousin) being jealous/interested in him.
All I hear is the theme song for "Three's Company" 'Come and knock on our door..'
All I hear is the theme song for "Three's Company" 'Come and knock on our door..'
We've been waiting for you
Where the kisses are hers and hers and his
Three's company too
very true.
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it is forbidden in Islam for a parent to force their daughter into marrying someone she does not want to be with. Tell your father so.
I hate to hear things like this. If you do not want to marry your cousin, dont. Its your life, be brave. He might fight about it with you, but stand your ground sweety. you have the RIGHT to marry someone who pleases you.
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Hi everyone,
As i had mentioned in my previous thread that,I registered on a matrimonial site to find someone so that I wouldnt have to marry my cousin,and after a guy's mother called my dad and since then the problem has started and since then i haven't been able to have peace.Almost every time there's quarrel and shouting and argument on me by my father because of this.I even apologized to him because of this and i even told him that i'm willing to marry my cousin but he doesn't seem to stop all this.He has started talking many things, and in a way,has started rising questions on my character.I'm in a way emotionally tortured.I don't have peace at any moment.Sometimes i even wish to end my own life.
What should i do?How can this all be stopped?
Hi Cuite
Don’t take any kind of wrong step which u mentioned I know it’s a very hard time for u I recommend u that don’t hurt ur self or any one try to talk with ur family members and prove ur point with logical reason don’t shout be calm and discuss logical and positive and negative points regarding ur proposal.
what’s up with aleesha’s ???
Yeah right = Hell NO
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^ I was thinking the exact same thing :D
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DO NOT MARRY YOUR COUSIN IF YOU DO NOT LIKE HIM & CAN NOT SEE A HAPPY & CONTENT FUTURE WITH HIM!!
InshaAllah this bad phase will pass, talk to ur mum, ur brothers, sisters, anybody who will listen
Be patient, keep your faith in Allah swt & pray to him....when u go through hard times its difficult to think that there will be good times at the end, but u havent done anything wrong here
Parents are only human aswell & they make mistakes too, but dont let one mistake lead u to make an even bigger mistake
InshaAllah talk to ur dad pateiently or ur mum & have faith
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maybe you shouldve consulted him that you were putting yourself on a matromony site, maybe hes angry about not being told.its a big step to put yourself on there.
on a sep note, just to warn you, i have heard and even met a girl througha friend who was marrying someone she met of these sites, and they presented themselves well, but now shes divorcing him after 4 months of marriage. they lied. have to be extra careful.
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whose your cousin, is he someone u dnt like at all, you know him? of course its your right to say no.
i was asked if i wanted to marry mine, and i said no way, neve ever, then i got to know him, took me 3years to know him, and i ended up liking him. its always the im never marrying a freshythinking by default.
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Alright so....I can see why the OP's father might be upset. Desi culture dictates...that girls must be obedient and anything less than that is bay-hayaai...bay-ghairatness...etc etc. Forget that Islam states that a marriage isn't valid without the mutual consent of the guy and the girl....but then our culture has it's own version of religion.
So...the dad is upset that the daughter has made herself look baysharam by independently doing a rishta-search for herself. The dad feels resentful that OP didn't involve parents in the process before hand. The dad is also fears that if word spreads....it'll make his daughter look "loose"....and it'll make him n his wife look like careless parents.
***But here's what gets me. The dad can blame the daughter all he wants. BUT...he has to accept some responsibility for his own actions. He should be asking himself, "Gee why did my child feel compelled to use a matrimonial site without telling her parents."......"Gosh, why did my daughter feel that she couldn't trust us?"...."Where did we go wrong, that our daughter who has never behaved like this felt she needed to take such a drastic step?"
^Relationships are two-sided...even that of a parents and a child. A sound-minded parent...apart from venting steam....also questions their own actions and errors in upbringing. And I'm hoping his anger and pride/ego won't prevent him from getting to that self-questioning stage. Because then the Dad will have to learn that his imposing/rigidity/lack of open-mindedness....is what led to his daughters "mistake"...and his current unhappiness. And if he persists....it may make life worse for many people.