Okay guys, I gotta ask this.
How much it matters to have a person who can be a strong emotional support for us. How much emotional strength we expect, demand or anticipate from the other person. And how influential this factor is in a marriage…
Certain people don’t like a spouse who is “too dependent” emotionally. What is that could be defined within “emotional stregth” about a person…
Please keep in mind that emotional strength and “being foolish” are not mutually exclusive…
Lahore 981
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i think that it is really important to hve strong emotional support from both sides....men and women.......i mean if they dnt help u in ur time of need and r not there wen u need them then wats the point in being married to that person.......it shud not only be abt sex in a marriage all things shud be considered.......:)
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I think again, like many personnel issues, this is very individual.
Some people enjoy having someone who does everything with them, makes their spouse the center of their lives and are happy when they are there....
Other's live and behave independently.
HOWEVER....I think to some extent spouses develop a relationship where it is "them" and everyone else and your spouse becomes your main source of advice and comfort...though with a caveat that they shouldn't be your ONLY source of support.
Finally, it's the day to day emotional support that is really important big events/ "imes of need" hey come once in a while but it is day to day little stuff hat can often be very BIG
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I think that to be in a marriage in the first place you have to be emotionally strong. That's for yourself, your spouse and eventually for kids. You will have moments of weakness and you need to have someone who can be there for you. But overall I prefer to not have any dependency but interdependency. We respect eachother's needs but know that we all rely on eachother. We consider the other when making decisions.
As a woman I want a strong man who is there for me. It's only now in marriage that I see my own strength. I see how stressed my husband gets and that he needs a soft place to fall every once in a while. I see how much my opinions and feelings influence him. Supporting eachother is basically respecting eachother.
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Hum, interesting comment. I guess you are near to the understanding…
What about the emotional needs of a man. He is also a human like females. He should have some emotional needs too. Any idea about what is the nature of emotional needs of a man? How do you perceive them?
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Emotional needs of a man are varying from one man to another. Ofcourse he's human. I'm not saying that a man is the only strong one in a relationship. It's just traditionally expected of a man to be less emotionally expressive even if he feels more than a woman. However in my relationship I'm more of the action person and he's more the feeling person. When we're in a situation I immediately look for a solution and busy myself with trying to fix something.
The emotional nature of a man you ask? Men are very senstitive despite what some may say. I think culture influences men to keep things bottled up. But things are changing these days and it's healthy for a man to talk about what he's feeling.
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^ hum, you are giving reasonable comments.
Okay, one thing I did not understand is that what do you mean by keep things bottled up? Isn't it that sometimes actions tell a lot, what if someone is showing his inner self in almost every action but the other side is not catching it? "feeling to aankhoon main parh lee jati hain madam moun sey kehna kiya zaroori hai" It is not necessary to say everything up front when everything is so obvious, don't you agree?
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Good question. Its good to have a spouse that is not a leech. Otherwise it can drain you totally. But in a way, sometimes with time and with support, the dependency your spouse has on you can be diminished. If you think your spouse is too dependent, then there are usually underlying problems, and it can be helpful to tackle specifically those.
Usually its a matter of confidence and self-esteem.
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Nobody is the center of your universe more than yourself. Period.
If you want someone else to feel happy even by negating yourself, it is because it makes you feel happy in return. The focus is again your own self.
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No i cant…I can never express whats going on in my mind…you people carry on
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^ Sure you can barbie, try whatever you can. Your opinion counts too.
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You expressed it pretty well there, I think. 
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like…are you serious:crying:
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^hmmm........... >50%
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phew....... Witchy
Why cant we just pick someone ...mmmmmmm....NICE..... and live our life smoothly...why these hazards ....... why can we be just simple and pure in our relationships....
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I was trying to cheer you up... No offense...
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emotionally n mentally a person should be stable to lead a good life.