If you had to choose only one of the two , which would it be ?
Both are vitally important to any relationship however sometimes one has to live without one or the other due to any number of reasons .
For me I think emotional security will always supercede financial security simply because I cannot imagine living with a person who does not make me feel emotionally secure . I can live in a village , in a hut in some far -flung corner of the earth and be completely happy as long as I know that person will be there for me always and cares about my well-being .
***However lots of people think financial security gives them that sense of well-being in a relationship . ***
well like you said both are very important but if I had to choose one over the other...Id go with emotional security.
However that is hard to find out if one is having an arranged marriage. i suppose this is why many families go for financial security when getting their daughters married.
Emotional security is directly connected with financial security. It might be easier for men to say that they feel emotionally secure with a woman without her being financially stable, but it is not entirely true for a woman to say. Nowadays most of the divorces are direct result of financial constraints or insecurities. In a Pakistani society where women are not usually main source of income, it gets more important for a man to make enough money to afford a family.
On the other hand it might be totally different for women who can afford themselves. Of course they will prefer being emotionally secured and loved than anything else but at the same time will they also be able to take a husband who will stay at home fulltime?
As being a man I’ll prefer emotional security but maybe only because I can afford it. I will categorize it more of a luxury than necessity. The way I am thinking about this concept is totally different from a person in Pakistan, who spends all his day trying to make enough money, so he can feed his family at night. Emotional intellectuality is trait among elites but not a norm among 90% of Pakistani society.
