Emotional dishonesty

Lifestyle Relationships
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Ok so i’m sure we all can agree that the foundation of every good relationship should be honesty…In order for things to work out, you obviously need to be open and honest with each other, cuz no one likes being lied to…

There are, however, two forms of dishonesty- verbal and emotional… Verbal being lies about past relationships, where they are, etc… Emotional is when you show your significant other a person that’s not you… you create a new persona just to please and impress him/her… change the way you dress, act, speak… essentially everything that makes you you… just to mesh with the person you’re involved with… I mean at one point we all might’ve been guilty of it (consciously or not)… becoming “interested” in basketball only cuz your boyfriend is a diehard bball fan and we try to find some common ground… but I once saw a girl completely hange just for her man… tongue piercing, braids, ghetto lingo just cuz he liked all that, and I thought it was really pathetic that she had to change herself to be loved; the guy didnt love her for her, he was just into the character she portrayed herself to be…

Eventually he found out that she was just a wannabe, that the whole relationship was nothing but a charade… and she lost both him and her identity..

Why do so many people try to be someone theyre not, all just for love? You cant be loved if you dont love yourself…

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That is soo true..I have seen some friends after getting married ..so totally changed cuz thats wat their guys wanted..It is sad as sooner or later, the truth comes out...ANd for the girls who do it.."Have some self respect yar!!..a guy is not worth it, but then again...U shouldnt be dishonest..how would he know?:)

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well ya some people do it n it sucks...i mean they cant fake it for long n than we all know wat the end result is......its sad! people shud respect people for who they r.....agreed that if u r marrying sum1 n u have issues with few of their habbits n if they agree that they need 2 change those habbits than thats fine but neva do that at pressure or without yr own consent cuz at the end of the day u wl not only loose yr respect but yr identity 2....

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I dont personally see the point of the front...
If they like you great...if they dont then that means you arent compatible...
You should never change yourself for anyone...and if you are yourself you wont please everyone but atleast you will please the people who actually like you for you...
I have plenty of people who like me and plenty of people that dislike me and i prefer it that way...if your friends with everyone then i think there is a front somewhere...

~~~ Missing someone ~~~
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Re: Emotional dishonesty

uss ko meye neye dekhha tha **
*uss ko mei nei dekha tha *
*her kisi keye chereye mey *
*ik ada si hoti hey *
**rukh keye her ik phelo pey
ik ada si hoti hey!
*uss ko meye neye dekhha tha *
*uss ko mei nei dekha tha *

nbn:
there goes your front and your back!

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*emotions have no place for DISHONESTY *

whether a man does that or a woman - no human being ought to exploit this faculty of our species.
*those who do are failures in themselves. *

the is the good side of emotional honesty shows through in the following kind of people:
they could be truly wanting attention **
**they could be really wanting to settle with someone they find able to make them content
they could be really emotionally drained themselves

the bad side of emotional dishonesty shows in the following kind of people:
they could be violating emotions of others they prey upon **
**they could be wasting their years playing themselves as fools by making others feel emotionally used
*or they could be seriously criminal minded in their emotional rape of the others' emotions *

*conclusion: that is why it is all the more necesssary for women to stay alert to abuse. and to find why the emotional violation was committed. and if emotional dishonesty was due to some non delibrate pressures, then the doer of that dishonesty must find a way to replace the emotional dishonesty by emotional honesty and do so, rather speedily. *

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Yeah, I know where you are going with this but a lot of time the people that are doing it, don't even realize it. This thread totally reminds me of this. I'v never been a great fan of cricket, just hear the scores from another person and that's about it. Now, after I got engaged, turns our that my fiance is a cricket maniac. Since the world cup just started, I just got a "little" into it and ASKED for the scored instead of someone telling me. Wth? before I knew it, my mother and siblings had fishy smiles on their faces and they started acting outtt all weirdly.

haha that was so irrelevant...continue...