Yesterday I took my MIL for follow up appt for her ortho surgery. After waiting few minutes this handsome middle aged doctor walked in. As he was speaking to us I couldn’t stop looking at him. I have a very healthy relationship with hubby but i felt just like a teenage girl having a crush once we left. Did any of you married women ever have an experience like this where it felt like having a crush? Would other women consider this emotional cheating if they are married?
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For your eyes and mind 
teri nigaahen, paa gayi rahein
par tu yeh soche jaaun na jaaun
yeh zindagi jo hai naachti toh
kyon bediyon mein hai tere paanv
preet ki dhun par naach le paagal
udta agar hai udne de aanchal
kaahe koi apne ko aaise tarsaaye
jo hai ankahee jo hai ansuni
woh baat kya hai bata
Mitwa kahein dharkanein tujhse kya
mitwa yeh khudse toh na tu chhupa
mere mann ye bata de tu
kis or chala hai tu
kya paya nahi tune
kya dhundh raha hai tu
mitwa…
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haha thanks!
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Yesterday I took my MIL for follow up appt for her ortho surgery. After waiting few minutes this handsome middle aged doctor walked in. As he was speaking to us I couldn't stop looking at him. I have a very healthy relationship with hubby but i felt just like a teenage girl having a crush once we left. Did any of you married women ever have an experience like this where it felt like having a crush? Would other women consider this emotional cheating if they are married?
Horrible horrible wife!
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Its nothing seriously......:D
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Yesterday I took my MIL for follow up appt for her ortho surgery. After waiting few minutes this handsome middle aged doctor walked in. As he was speaking to us I couldn't stop looking at him. I have a very healthy relationship with hubby but i felt just like a teenage girl having a crush once we left. Did any of you married women ever have an experience like this where it felt like having a crush? Would other women consider this emotional cheating if they are married?
You have commited a grave sin woman and you shall rot in hell for your despicable actions. Is there not an ounce of loyalty left in desi women?
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every second time i have NEW crush , Oh God don’t know after shadi hoga ya nahi 
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I was hoping I get response from married women! As for some of the men and their comments you must be the most shareef people the world has ever been blessed with!
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coolgirl are u implying im not shareef 
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I was hoping I get response from married women! As for some of the men and their comments you must be the most shareef people the world has ever been blessed with!
Bus kabhi gharoor nahi kia. Sharafat k mujas-sa-may hain men
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I was hoping I get response from married women! As for some of the men and their comments you must be the most shareef people the world has ever been blessed with!
I'll fetch me mullah stick. That's 100 lashes for you.
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haha Spock! where have you guys been? nahi but you are shareef I think!
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haha
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Yesterday I took my MIL for follow up appt for her ortho surgery. After waiting few minutes this handsome middle aged doctor walked in. As he was speaking to us I couldn't stop looking at him. I have a very healthy relationship with hubby but i felt just like a teenage girl having a crush once we left. Did any of you married women ever have an experience like this where it felt like having a crush? Would other women consider this emotional cheating if they are married?
There's nothing wrong with thinking that another man is good looking. You thinking that the doctor is good looking is no different than you thinking that some actor on TV is good looking.
Yes often times I look at other men and think "damn he's hot". Does that make me feel guilty or make me feel like I'm "cheating" on my SO? No. Yes I recognize that idea that men other than my SO are good looking...but the thought of pursuing something with those men never even cross my mind.
On the flip side, my SO also often makes comments on girls that he thinks are "hot". No, I don't mind or think that he's "emotionally cheating" on me b/c he thinks some other girl is hot.
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all you did was look and notice another man's good looks, there is nothing wrong with that. you still have eyes and i'm sure your husband notices a beautiful woman when she walks by, you're only human.
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haha Spock! where have you guys been? nahi but you are shareef I think!
:D I was about to hand you a punishment for this horrible sin you committed but now I'll spare you since you confirmed my sharaafat!
The punishment was to cook food for all the single shareef guys in your area for an entire month (not including that doctor though!)
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Spock- okay.. i am willing to cook. Understand one thing though, if I cook and you guys all have to eat my food that would be punishment for you guys! just ask Salman :)
Oh by the way are you still sticking to the guppan promise or am i going to hear from our molwi shahab about this sin i have commited :)
Thanks Nisha and Paheli- my and hubby have the same! i am going to go ahead and add this to the vault of secret people I admire :)
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You don't cease finding other people physically attractive after marriage. The important thing is to stay within your limits, honor your commitment to your partner, and be tactful/sensitive to their feelings.
I think the word "cheating" is a bit strong.....because you didn't invest emotional energy into this handsome doctor. You don't know him on a personal/intimate level....you didn't have any romantic interactions with him.
It doesn't even have to be someone you've seen in person. You see attractive people (both men and women) in magazines and on TV all the time........so everytime you think how hot they are.......would that be considered emotional cheating? It's not something that your partner may care to know about...but it's a part of human nature.
From a religious perspective....you're urged to lower your gaze and stay within you limits......and these two admonishments, in no way, suggest that we do not have feelings of attraction, etc. Rather they are part of human nature....which is why the admonishments exist in the first place.
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^ While I agree with this for the most part, I don't think its right to compare the inaccessible TV & movie crushes to the real life accessible crushes.
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it's totally normal
NO it's not cheating!