Emotional Attachment-prevention?

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Re: Emotional Attachment-prevention?

@Nisha25

I tend to get so emotionally attached to people, friends or anybody i get to know on a personal level. including family(but that’s of course a given and i don’t want to prevent that). i get close to to people i meet and then when they leave, i feel massively empty inside. I’m hoping i’m not the only one that does that.

How do you prevent it?

There is nothing wrong with getting close to people. However, if you’re getting hurt too often, then there must be something going wrong there, right?

The solution isn’t to stop getting attached. The solution would lie in figuring out why you get attached to people and fulfilling that need of yours in a healthier manner.

Point is to NOT be too hard on yourself, to not feel bad about yourself just because you have a certain pattern, but to try to figure it out.

Ask yourself these questions:

What does getting (really) close to people, too quickly, achieve for you?
How does it make your life better?
How does it make you FEEL better?
What do you like about it?

Then, think about if that same need can be met in some other way. Actually, figuring out the reason would be half the work. Don’t worry yourself with the next part of it, yet.