Emotional abuse is common in relationships. Normally western world talks a lot about emotional abuse (name calling, yelling, swearing, threats to leave, unpredictable behaviors etc etc.). This is easy to identify since both partners are usually physically together. But the same people say that you cant find the actual potential of a relationship until and unless two people start living together.
Considering the desi rishta settings where two people can not meet before marriage and their communication is always limited to phone or chat, can we apply the same parameters (name calling, hanging up the phone, yelling, using insulting terms, threats to step out of relationship) to identify the emotional abuse and step out of it? Or we should give one benefit of doubt and wait for the time until long distance becomes short distance?
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Emotional abuse is common in relationships. Normally western world talks a lot about emotional abuse (name calling, yelling, swearing, threats to leave, unpredictable behaviors etc etc.). This is easy to identify since both partners are usually physically together. But the same people say that you cant find the actual potential of a relationship until and unless two people start living together.
Considering the desi rishta settings where two people can not meet before marriage and their communication is always limited to phone or chat, can we apply the same parameters (name calling, hanging up the phone, yelling, using insulting terms, threats to step out of relationship) to identify the emotional abuse and step out of it? Or we should give one benefit of doubt and wait for the time until long distance becomes short distance?
You think the insults and yelling would somehow sound more baritone in short distance?
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I really do not understand how people can make this simple mistake. A close of friend of mine did this mistake and is suffering for the same. She was totally mesmerized by this guy, her parents found for her and she mistakenly thought that the abuse would stop when they got married. He got her pregnant fast and now is using emotional blackmail on top of the abuse so that she does not leave him. Sometimes I think guys can be such idiots. That goes for girls too...
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Emotional abuse is a form of abuse (perhaps the worst) and distance has nothing to do with it. Don't wait too long to step-out of, and no it usually doesn't end.
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it never ends, its the most destructive form, because you cant even see it, and it affects ur mind and when ur mind is sick then ur whole lifes pretty much screwed
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If the emotional abuse is bad now when you're long distance, imagine what its going to be like when you're in very close quarters with this person. Can't be good.