Embarrassing question but need clarification!

Re: Embarrassing question but need clarification!

If napaki is not visible or it has dried up and cannot get transfered to your clothing the behavior of that lady is right. Think about it you can perform teamum' ( dry wudu) off of a dry surface as long as you do not see any napaki sticking to that surface.
There is so much hearsay in Muslim communities because people do not have time to look into the books themselves therefore some people will just use common sense and speculate.