elder and young kids

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My sister told us at a Eid gathering, when she really wants to kiss, cuddle, or just love her youngest kid (baby boy) she does it when her eldest girl (she’s about 4 years old) is in kindergarten, as not to awake jealousy of any kind from her eldest.

ANOTHER female agreed, that she used to wait till her eldest kid boy left for school before she used to kiss and cuddle her daughter, when she was a baby.

I found it funny and didnt knew that how eldest kids can be jealous of the younger ones. And how mothers kiss and cuddle their babies when the elder ones are not looking.

Anyone else done this?

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Re: elder and young kids

Having 3 boys, aged 4, 3 and 1 this is just not possible! But even if it were, its not something I would practice. I think its a good thing that all 3 boys see that I love EACH of them, it fosters love for each other, for every family member. At bedtime, the boys give each other hugs and say nite nite to each other, they apologize to each other when the need arises. Love is for family, hiding the fact that you love one of them will only hurt relationships in the long run.

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That's simply the wrong way. If you want to cuddle the little one then treate both of them the same. Kiss them at the same time. There are many kids that are jealous of their older/younger siblings. Even I was...okay, I still am I guess.

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I'm expecting #2 daughter and my 3 yo daughter is super close with me. She's still extremely attached to me, so i was worried about the jealousy thing. But I plan to show affection to #2 in front of her and encourage her to be loving of her little sister as well. She needs to see that babies need affection and it makes them happy. It's not natural to hide that fact.

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I agree saima, babies need affection, its not like she does it all the time, kid 1 loves kid 2 .. maybe its just natural. I dont really know ...

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My brother has two, 1.5 years apart and while the jealousy is obvious, they tend to ignore it & try to keep a balance.