Ego in Communication

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Now i am sorry to say but i am a bit egoistic when it comes to calls, msn, texting.

I will explain what i mean, when i am on msn and i want to talk to someone and someone knows that i am online and we are lets say very close friends she does not message me first. I wait and wait 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 15 minutes finally i am the one who messages and she replies. I do not like this.

Same way, i like people to call me and people to text me first. When i do not text someone or call someone for two days and then i do after tired of waiting someone says why did you not call i was wondering what happened to you. If you were wondering why did you not message me or call me?

So are you like me too or are you the opposite?

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Re: Ego in Communication

Obviously posting is not where you are egotistic at all. 2 years into being here and you have over 29,000 of them ...lol

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well i dunt really use msn..maybe its sort of bcs of this reason/prob u mention aisha..
as for phone ueah i sort of used to do that..
i dunt like ego..especially in such instances..

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Has the thought ever come across your mind that the other person might be egoistic along the same lines how you are?

So, conversely, question is, how would you feel if a person you interact with has the same ego?

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i generally initiate chats if i feel like it, it doesn't bother me to be the initiator at all. but if i noticed that i was the sole initiator of chats, i would take it as a sign that the person is not really interested in my chatting. So I would stop talking to the person unless they initiated. So it's not an ego thing, it's just that I don't want to impose myself on a person.

Honestly I would rather talk with someone who has a mutual interest in talking with me, not someone who thinks of a conversation as a 'battle' of who started it first. For me at least, it is difficult to sustain a close friendship with a person like this.

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never ever a good thing to peruse in conversing with one's loved ones or even one's enemy.

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honey i wouldnt be conversing with enemy in the 1st place!

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soni27, that is true, you should not also.

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I dO that knOwing its not right :teary1:

but jalaibi totally agree with u…

aisey laugon k saath dOsti kertay waqt sOchna chahiey :vivo:

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my hubby was used to be like that bfre wedding,,....and nw am quite used to it nw

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lol

Suggest a dress
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Normally such thoughts do not come to my mind. If i feel talking / Texting some one i will not wait others to start it but on MSN I do wait others to start chat as i do not want to disturb any one, thought comes to my mind that may be one do not wish my interferance at that specific time . . . :hmmm:

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i dont bother to call or talk to someone over msn untill i dont feel like and if one is ignoring me for some reason i stop caring abt them.I believe tali dono hathoon say bajti hai:phati:

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:biggthumb

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I knew it :chai:

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If I want to talk to someone, I talk with them.. I don't wait for others - keeping in view that I will only talk with them if they talk with me... errr NO... When I start caring for someone, I care for them, no matter what happens in the way...kyunkay ik baar jo dil main jaagaah ban jatee hai na, kissi kay liye, appkay dil main, tou unhain napasand karnay ka aur saray rishtay tornay ka tasawarr bhee nahin paida hota... And if I want to know how they are doing, I call them up, phoning is a lot more personal then chatting.. so a simple call is the way to go, for me...

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As much as I dislike this about my personality, I am a bit egoistical as well. Sometimes, I like to blame my family for a 'princess' treatment..haha but I know that I need to work on this. I've improved significantly though after going to a university where it's extremely difficult to make friends/aquaintances (yet they are essential in making through uni). I never ever felt the need to initiate friendships etc. but now I feel it's extremely important to have those skills to be able to initiate a conversation/friendship/relation without expecting the other party to be equally responsive. So, I am currently working on it. But a part of me still dislikes it if someone (only talking about my friends/special ones here) doesn't initiate coversation with me or doesn't respond back to me.