Like, mother educated, but she goes to job, and kids are looked after by unparh nanny/aaya, or old less educated naani/daadi, then how true is this statement? What educated interaction will kid get if the mom is not even there?
What are your thoughts?
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Stats show that educated moms have educated children, the nannies we hired had more class than 90 percent of the people we socialized with, they would say please, thank you, excuse me and eat with their mouths closed and properly chew their food and take their time eating. Most of the Filipina nannies here have university degrees.
Also, not all educated women choose to work. Many mothers are very negative, they yell, they scream and hit the child, in these circumstances a child is better off away from the mother.
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It’s easier to devote more time and energy toward your children when you have less on your plate. In my years of teaching in both public and private school, I’ve observed the following: Students being raised by a single parent are more likely to struggle academically and have behavior issues, students whose moms are housewives tended to do better academically, students who live with both parents fared better, students who have both parents that work did well IF parents devoted time. Now exceptions to these observations or generalizations will always be there. Currently I am teaching about 50 students and they’ve been split into 2 groups or classes. There is a “lower” group and this group is weaker. The second group is my “high” group; they are academically very strong. In my lower group, most of those students are being raised by a single parent. A parent that comes tired from working 1-2 jobs and doesn’t have energy to even check the child’s homework. OR…what I feel is worse…is that some of those students live with parents that are married but are not working with their child. In my “high” group, majority of the students’ parents are married and the moms are either housewives or employed, but they’re working with their kid at home. Now…out of my high group…the smattering of weaker kids…again are being raised by a single parent.
I’ve only come across a couple cases where mom was a housewife but didn’t seem to do squat with kid at most. Most of the housewife moms that I came across had kids that did really well academically and behaviorally as well…and it makes sense…when there’s less on your plate…less to juggle around…you’re able to devote more time n energy to your kids. But again…if a parent has that ehsaas/realization…they will make time for their kid even if they’re working. It may be harder…but it’ll get done. Unfortunately I’ve found that teachers who are also moms…are so clueless about their own kids. They spend most of the day teaching and raising other people’s children that they don’t know what homework their own child has. I have come across a couple exceptions to this observation, but only a few in my experience.
There are so many factors at play, Op. A single mother has it harder. If and when I have a child, I would rather not work…especially when my child is very young and dependent on me. I don’t want to be that mom who spent the day raising other people’s children and comes home too tired to look after my own child and home. There are days I come home really late and I just crash. My job doesn’t end; I have grades and lessons and lots of paperwork to do. So, either I won’t work or maybe I’ll find a position that entails less work. Working sometimes isn’t a choice for some women. But whether you do or you don’t…bottom line is that your children shouldn’t take a backseat.
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I’m a decently educated woman, I work full time, and my child goes to daycare. I feel I’m a better mom when I’m also working (I was a stay-at-home mom for 6 months). It all boils down to how you spend time with your child - when I’m home with my daughter, she has 100% of my attention. We chat about her day, play, read, take a walk, do art/craft and so many other things. I was amazed that i was actually able to give her more quality time when I started working. I enjoy my line of work a lot and it gives me much needed mental stimulation. I really look forward to our evenings together. Also helps that the daycare she’s in is a fantastic place, and she is excited every day about going there - she is learning SO much. I struggled a lot more as a stay at home mom - I craved interaction with other adults, and was too tired just doing day to day chores (home and baby) to come up with constructive and meaningful ways to spend time with my kiddo. Really made me appreciate how much effort goes into being a SAHM!
Bottom line - I don’t think the total number of hours you spend with your kid matter as much as what you do in those hours. An educated mom to me doesn’t necessarily mean someone with a ton of degrees, but someone who is willing to invest time in her kids, and hone their natural curiosity and desire to learn new things.
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They say it is the first Five years of a childs life are the most important!
after that it is all History(his or her story) 
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I am glad this topic has been brought up…how old is ur daughter?
I am a full time working mom too though I miss my kids all day but when I go home I try to spend my time with them I teach my elder one myself and MA he is doing pretty well…younger one is quite sharp too…Allhamdulillah their studies are not being affected by my job 
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We focus a lot on studies, it is really important to develop them from a 360 perspective where they know how to be happy are able to enjoy life, are good at social and soft skills have physical literacy and other life skills. I am sure that as a mother with great social skills you are focusing on that already. We should teach them cooking, cleaning and fixing stuff also. My philosophy is that if you are happy you are successful.
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it really all depends on the individual themselves..
i know a working mom who is educated, smart, goal-oriented etc at work, very much that she has advanced alot through the years.. yet, her 3-year old can barely talk (and no, it’s not a learning difficulty or anything like that), because she doesn’t spend what others would say is quality time with him after she comes home from work. he is yet to be potty trained, wont eat/drink anything that wont come out of his bottle, doesn’t listen to anything she says, nor does she discipline/teach him… her mother watches him throughout the day, and spends nights there as well, where she comes home to her own place, and sees him mainly just after work.
i know another mom who is stay-home, has a GED which she says was very difficult because she hates school.. yet, her 3 year old is one the smartest kids i know.. she talks in full sentences, feeds herself, listens to what others say, and knows the difference between discipline and praise when shes done something she shouldn’t have..
point being.. it all depends on the mother.. how they choose to discipline, teach, and add value to their children.. every mother has their own way of raising their kids, education doesn’t always determine how it will be done