i hav been on diet most of my adult life. however when im alone at home i do quiet well , but when at the office , with colleagues,with friends , or family hangin out or just plain old meal at the table i feel under immense pressure , coz when one is over weight ever1 seems to take a peek at how many helpings u r taking ? portion size etc. it gets worst with in-laws n colleagues , they especially like to mention after a pretentious look at u n ur plate " so u r on a diet “? most of them also wud like to add " have some more of this its tastes so good or taste that not eating wudnt help lose weight..blah blah” their way of saying that u d never b slim . and then u end up eating more. just ur way of saying" NO im not on diet"
y do ppl like to tease others who have a weight issue, especially in_laws n ppl at work place i guess they just cant stand the fact that someone is makin an effort to take care of their health n appearence.
how many of u go through this every day??? how to deal with this?
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anyone ??
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I've been on a 'diet' all my adult life as well - and I do the same thing except I dont give a dinga-ling what others say I'm just tempted that much by food.
Try and surround yourself with more positive people.
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HA ha ha i d have definately done that ... but one can choose friends but not in laws n colleagues . u r just stuck with em .
im genuinely tempted may b once in a while , but the rest of the time it just happens , im not even tempted. How very baaaaaaaaaadddddddddddd is that
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But Muniya how can we surround ourselves with more positive people? at home is ok but at work place we cant make the people to be more positive.
Coccoo you are right i also experince same situation but without any solution.
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You should turn around the the really skinny people
and make a really distressed face ---
"OMG what happened to you honey? Are you under allot of stress? You look horrible; just look at those sunken eyes; tsk tsk"
Then take something off you're plate and put in on thier.
"here you go - you need this more then I do"
walk away..
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You two sound like you only have ONE colleague and that person is nasty.
I'm sure there must be alteast 5 more minimum - hang out with the ones who see you and your weight.
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good advice muniya ... the thing is no matter what im toooo super sensitive a person to tell some 1 that . i wish i cud i really wish i cud be nasty ......... i guess i just dont know how? im such a softy.
na i dont hav 1 colleague i have loads all nasty nasty nasty esp the bosses ha ha
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staning up for youself doesn't equal nasty.
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i still think tellin some1 they look bad famished etc .. i don know sounds nasty 2 me .
also one of the most surprising facet of my weightloss journey is that when i was so fat that i wasnt just fat i was obese , id say morbidly obese coz my bmi was 32. at that time every1 was cool with me . but when i started lossin fat n after almost 2 years of struggle hav managed to lose 45lbs only a lil more to go ....... Now suddenly ppl have started noticing that im "FAT"
what a joke?
Now suddenly ppl have started noticing that im "FAT" what a joke?
What?? Are you kidding me?
How insensitive!!!!
Anyway you CAN NOT, CAN NOT let these people get to you and mess around with your goal. No matter how they try to manipulate try to stay focused and show them you can do it.
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but when i started lossin fat n after almost 2 years of struggle hav managed to lose 45lbs only a lil more to go ....... Now suddenly ppl have started noticing that im "FAT"
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That sounds to me a little like jealousy and insecurity, I'm afraid. Usually, when people start making snide remarks about your looks, it's because they're feeling a bit insecure about their own. I really, really hate generalizing and saying something so mean, but it's true...a lot of people like it when someone they know is overweight or is, by societal standards, unattractive, because when they hang around that person, they make themselves feel better by thinking that they themselves can't be that bad since they don't look like "that" person. And when that person starts losing weight or perhaps starts presenting themselves in a more attractive way, then they can't stand it and start making hurtful remarks. They suddenly notice that you're "fat." Because they're feeling insecure themselves.
So don't you listen to them. You keep doing what you're doing and when they say stuff, feel bad for them because they're probably insecure and don't have the guts to make some changes in their lives (like you did).
Go you! Forget them.
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Ya ppl can be v mean , sajal n mistral u r right , i guess deep inside i know its all due to their own insecurities.
but even then ...ME BEING "ME". I DO TEND TO OVER EAT WHEN THEY R AROUND .
(kinda silly of me) anyways i ll try n change that inshAllah coz ive worked realy hard to get where i am today.