earnings and husbands

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This exactly! The fact that you don't trust him enough to disclose that you have property/money in your name only speaks volumes about your marriage. I think you need to concentrate on that aspect of your relationship, rather than mulling over wether to tell him or not. Is this a marriage you really want to be in?
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My marriage wasn't a love marriage and I didn't knew him that well. I asked him all the questions which I thought was important and sadly I trusted his answer because at the time I couldn't see why someone would lie to their future wife or husband to be. After I got married I found out a lot of stuff which was kept hidden for me and my family. I am just trying to workout our problems and trust comes with time. Just because I married this guy doesn't mean I have to give everything I earned. It's not haram money I got and the property I got is what I got from my grandparents when they died. Why should I give all that up just so my MIL can sell and take the money?????
Because that's what will happen since my husband can't keep any secret from her! which is one of my issue with him.

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Re: earnings and husbands

^This. I totally agree.

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Re: earnings and husbands

Thedoer:

First: YOU SHOULD NOT TELL YOUR HUSBAND ANYTHING WHAT YOU HAVE… as not telling him would save you from many fitna in future, and will keep you as well as your assets safe.

Second: You should make sure that what is yours stay yours until death or until time you need to spend them.

Third: In Islam you have no obligation to tell your husband what you have neither you need to give anything to your husband what you have. Thus, I do not think you should do that, give anything to your husband.

[If I was advising my own sister or daughter, I would have told her the same, that it is better to leave a husband insisting to acquire what you have, then give him anything, as husbands who want their wife savings and properties are greedy, and if not today, they would treat you badly and would abuse you, could keep demanding more after taking all what you have, and could even divorce you once they think they dried you as resource. In that case you would be left with nothing, no money and no marriage.

I know many couples, who live together and are living together since years, and still they keep what is theirs in their name, especially wife, still they have very good relationship. Well, wife only share or spend on her husband if there is any necessity]

West: Even in most western countries where by law both husband and wife share properties and savings, they only share what they earned and built after marriage. In most cases, inherited money and properties, personal gifts, savings and properties that one acquired before marriage (that could be from earned income) are exempt from sharing, and thus are not shared.

So, to say that in west everything is shared after divorce is wrong. Only thing that both partners share are savings and properties that they acquired after marriage, as it is considered that since both were partners, all savings and properties they acquired while being partner belongs to both equally, regardless of who earned them.

Actually, in west law book, it is advised that if one believes divorce or separation is imminent, then they should empty joint accounts so that they keep what is there. In my first job my boss who was married over 30 years, with two kids, both in late 20s, once told me that he got divorce with his wife and had final settlement, then proudly told me that he had huge investment in shares that he never told his wife, and since she nor anyone knew about those investment, in settlement he did not shared them with her.