Re: Dysfunctional Families
Do you know what you writin?
I am writing what I experienced as well as experience.
I am not from the west where touching a childs finger raises hell. My child gets spanked at school and I got spanked at school. I do not advocate what my husbands family did to him at all..that is violence...a couple of spanks is not violence....
Please look up from your text books and statistics and see the world for what it is.
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I do not advocate what my husbands family did to him at all..that is violence...a couple of spanks is not violence....
it seems to me that you were saying that whatever happened to your husband was bcoz his family is muslim. and muslims are violent.
I'm sure about your husband's family that they don't know the Islamic teachings about Children's rights and Parent's duties.
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it seems to me that you were saying that whatever happened to your husband was bcoz his family is muslim. and muslims are violent.
I'm sure about your husband's family that they don't know the Islamic teachings about Children's rights and Parent's duties.
Well I have never generalised about anyone being violent.
If you recall I have said...that I needed to share my experience.
Should you conclude from that i mean about all muslims...well then its probly your defensive nature.
I mention muslim non-muslim environmennts cos thats where our struggles are in my family.
The only generalising statement I feel I have made is that parental bahaviour affects their children.
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hareem01
I respect your opinion sister but your posts regarding abortion, contraception and crimes in UK are totally irrelevant.
aly-sam
Yes your husband needs to know that there is overspilling of such behavior into next generation. I don't really know how can yu achieve this. Perhaps the first step is make him a partner/ bring him on the same page in parenting.
May be discuss more and more with him about good parenting.
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aly...does he ever do this to ur kids? or just simple thwacks... kids who were abused can end up abusing their own :(
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hareem01
I respect your opinion sister but your posts regarding abortion, contraception and crimes in UK are totally irrelevant. .
No prob Brother.
Re: Dysfunctional Families
Dysfunctional families are everywhere. I have seen couple of people doing the same thing here and in Pakistan. It can get better only if one person is normal in a couple. Atleast that normal person can change his/her spouse or point out the wrong doing. There are other things you can do to decipline the kid I don't know why some people have to beat the c**** out of the kid. It makes them dheat.
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aly...does he ever do this to ur kids? or just simple thwacks... kids who were abused can end up abusing their own :(
No sara he does not do to kids. But then again he has a fierce temperament and I am always on my guard. Generally he's quite normal and Ok, but you can see the negative effects of his upbringing sometimes.
Icon...Very difficult to achieve that...he first needs to acknowledge there is a problem. Dont know how to do that. After that I believe all will be easier to handle.
Thanks for your help.