duties/responsibilities of husband and wife in Islam

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Can someone explain to me the role/duties of husband and wife according to teachings of Islam.please eliminate the cultural factor , just purely what does Islam say.Thankyou

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Re: duties/responsibilities of husband and wife in Islam

it's common sense from Islamic point of view. treat each other with love, care and respect...period!

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Re: duties/responsibilities of husband and wife in Islam

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kis hawale se u r asking?
Helping loving each other?
Duties n roles rozana k kaam n life n all etc ?

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Re: duties/responsibilities of husband and wife in Islam

u can get different references from Quran n Hadith's..
but the basic extract is to show love,respect,trust,sincerety n dats all....

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This is how I see it ...

For references see the verses relating to women in the Qur'an - Surah Maryam, Surah Nisa, etc ... and refer to the last sermon in hadith and various other books ... some good ones are "how to win the heart of your wife/husband" ...

In summary ...

Men must feed and clothe their women
Women must honour their husbands property and by extension protect themselves from being dishonoured
Men must be understanding and not be physical to control wives
Women should respect husbands so their children can respect their fathers
Fathers should advise children to be dutiful to their mothers before themselves
Men should be offering security to women
Women should beautify themselves for their husbands
Men should be softer in the home than they are outside
Men are obliged to earn, women are not encouraged or discouraged to earn per se
This means men should use their time to earn and give much of their spare time to the family, women should give their main time to the family and may use their spare time to earn if they wish to do so and with consent.
Men nor the in-laws of the wives can dictate where the woman should spend her money, however a husband can direct the means of how the money is made that the family will consume - If the woman inherits money or is gifted wealth then the husband has no say in it.
When a man earns or inherits money he should seek advice from his wife where to spend it, but he has the decision on how it is spent, unless the responsibility of spending for family needs is divulged to the wife, then he may delegate the accounting of the family to the wife with his money.
The wife has a right to ask why certain decisions are being made
The husband has a duty to give good reasons for his decisions
The wife should honour the husband's decisions as she honours him
The husband should seriously consider the wife's wants to avoid fitnah, even if at times it betrays his reason
The couple should be able to have deep conversations and to improve one another in their good intentions and actions through mutual encouragement.
It is important for the couple to desire each other and to quickly disband random and rogue thoughts towards others that may befall them
It is a duty to see to the sexual needs of the spouse - (for men - unless they are using that as a form of alignment)
Women have a duty to allow themselves to be aligned - and not consider this a form of child discipline, but rather a form of removing the fitnah of discord.
Women have a duty to protect themselves from harm - which may include leaving a violent husband or a husband engaged in haram activities. Women should not try to correct such husbands as this may result in increasing the risk to their own safety.
Women should however, give advice to reasonably minded men at the best times when they are able to benefit from the advice and not soon after an argument when the emotions are high.

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thankyou psyah.that was a very detailed answer.what about the money husband spends on his wife's education? is it included in the expences of wife or can the husband ask for it back when the starts to earn money?

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Re: duties/responsibilities of husband and wife in Islam

Peace Uzgur

You're welcome.

What is normally given as gift to the wife cannot be reclaimed by the husband in any form ... Not even as a loan repayment, unless it is done out of the wealth given to her in mahr and she decided to end the marriage for he own reasons, she needs to repay the mahr back ... So if she studied on it then she should pay that back. Or if there was an agreement earlier that she would pay that back and a contract is in place. Otherwise giving ones wife a gift ... Is a gift ... They upon receiving the gift have full rights over it. It can get grey in the matter of divorce where a man can argue the position that the gift was given to symbolise the marriage and as the marriage no longer is in tact he wishes to get his money for it or for it to be returned to him ... But that needs to be decided by the judge at the time.

If the wife insists for some reason to repay her husband there is no stopping her, but her act will be counted in as a gift and not as a debt being cleared. Husband spending on his wife is his duty and cannot be considered a favour to her that she is in debt to in the material sense. She is his ... to care for ... Often men pay more than they need to to their wives ... And they get a reward for meeting their duty and an extra reward for being charitable too.

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Actually I have seen many young men telling their wives that they will take care of the clothes and food apart from that they should arrange it themselves as it is not in Islam.
What I had seen growingup was that the men brought in money and women spent it on family,home and on themselves.Men didnt make the women feel as if they were doing them a favour.But now if the wife is educated the men mostly think that the economic burden will be shared.I am not at all against that its just that sometimes it takes time to stand on one's feet and if the husband helps along the way they should in no way make their wife feel small.
So is cooking ,cleaning taking care of husband needs is a duty of wife in the eyes of Islam.because I had only heard that being faithful to him is all that is.I am sorry its just that no one stresses upon the rules of islam that apply in day to day matters.we read about toheed jehad haj zakat namaz and the problems or questions we have about them but when it comes to marriage its all about haq mehr, being faithfull, talaq(the 101 ways for it to be valid or invalid)
sorry about the rant.

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Actually it is the reverse ... Provision of food is the man's responsibility ... Women should be allowed to contribute of course if they wish, it is reasonable to expect cooking at home to be done by the wife so long as she is happy doing it and that was her arrangement with the husband.

Economic burden is never shared by default ... The woman has complete choice on whether her money should be shared with the household or not ... In practical sense she will need less of her husband's money if she is working and naturally due to her feelings for her children she will naturally spend for them too ... Unfortunately the problem is with men these days ... They expect the wife to earn and then they send her money back to their own parents ... which is wrong unless it is given by her as a gift for them.

General rule ... Put burdens on women expect resistance, take responsibilities away from women expect assistance ... Women are happier to help when we don't expect from them.

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Re: duties/responsibilities of husband and wife in Islam

:flowers: thank you