Durr-e- Shawar - A play by Umera Ahmed

Rukhsarbibi · March 31, 2012, 4:45pm

Re: Durr-e- Shawar - A play by Umera Ahmed

There is nothing wrong with either a man or a woman making breakfast for their spouse, waking them up, taking care of them when they’re sick, ironing their clothes, cooking for them, etc. Dooree got it right. It’s strange that a husband should compete with his children for the love of his wife. I’ve even heard of people competing with their spouse’s parents/siblings for their love. It IS childish either way. One’s spouse and children are two completely different relationships…the dynamics are different…it’s like comparing apples to oranges. Sure, you might argue that bhuraapay main sometimes a person acts like a bacha or with bachpana or like a “young kid”…but again…it only emphasizes the point that it’s childish/bacha-like behavior and that’s what you’d still be acknowledging with such reasoning as you have in post # 83.

Just because you feel that “a lot” of people act a certain way when they approach a certain age…doesn’t automatically make that behavior healthy or right or attractive. It’s typical for many two-year-olds to thrown themselves down and beat their fists against the floor when they don’t get their way. It’s “typical” behavior…but it’s not considered good or right or healthy…and sound-minded parents will try their best to encourage more appropriate and socially-accepted behavior in their kids. After all, Dur-e-Shawar is “older” as well…but she doesn’t compete in this way. I hope that I’ve cleared things up for you.

You had stated that it was more like a mother-son relationship to you which was gross. I merely stated that men and women become childlike when they get older and it is a pretty realistic portrayal of that age. I wouldn’t go as far as comparing a husband-wife relationship to a mother-son relationship and add a weird and gross angle to it Durr-e-Shehwar or any other women in her 60s is not going to set out and try to change her husband now when he’s set in his ways. Again I was commenting that the portrayal is realistic. I am not saying that it is healthy or should be encouraged. I was just disturbed by your gross angle to it which I still am.