Durood

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Re: Durood

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Maulana Rumi gave an anecdote … (Paraphrasing)

A man was in deep need of Allah (SWT) and was supplicating to Him (reciting many du’a) then a cynic walked past him and saw him then each day he would walk past he saw this man doing du’a. And then one day the cynic stopped.

“hey, how long have you been asking Allah (SWT) like this?”
“for many moons” the man replied.
“why are you wasting your time asking what is not going to be granted to you?” asked the cynic.

This brought the man in to a confused state. So he stopped supplicating and withdrew his arms. He fell into a sleep like state and dreamed.

Al-Khidr came to him in his dream.

“Why did you stop your du’a?” He asked him.
“I was made to realise my supplication was futile as it was not being accepted”
So Al-Khidr said, “Don’t you get it? The state of supplication was the answer … When people spend their lives preoccupied in the world, you were spending your time with your heart and mind towards Him. You were at the doorstep of Grace in your state of supplication”

So you see Allah (SWT) Loves to grant du’a as encouragement but also Loves to hold back granting du’a … Because His slaves are closer to Him in the state of need. If we learn that each time something happens we turn to Allah (SWT) even when nothing seems to be answered that is when we know we are in His Divine Protection, because each time despite not getting what we wish for we turn back to Him … And this is what we are Created for. Remember no du’a is lost … It will be counted among the deeds of worship.

Lemme ask you this then…Do you not find that view to be idealistic? There are people who will spend months and even years making dua for a specific thing. Allah meri shadi falan banday se karvaa de. Allah mujhay falan bana de…falan jagah naukri dilaa de. They’ll wake up for tahaujjad and make that dua. They’ll make it during sujjood, during rain, while fasting. That particular dua/wish becomes their zidd. And in the process, they don’t consider other options…cuz it is only that particular person/job/goal that they want. They become so consumed by that desire and making dua for it that they end up wasting months and even years of their life and it’s not granted to them. Is it not impractical, harmful even?

There are many folks that advise against asking Allah persistently for a particular thing; instead they say it’s better to say, “Allah give it to me if it’s good for me. Do what is best for me.” The counter argument is that Allah is closer to us than our jugular vein and He knows what’s in our hearts, you can’t lie to Him. He knows that your neutrality is an ‘act’ and that you’d much rather receive the specific thing you want, so when your creator knows you well just ask Him for exactly what you want. I’ve mixer feelings about this. I do believe that on should ask Allah for whatever their heart desires, but at the same time I know there’s a danger in getting emotionally attached to a dua and to not have it fulflled.

There’s a saying that is said to be hadith qudsi but I haven’t confirmed. You may have heard it too:

Aye ibn-e-Adam

aik teri chahat hai aur aik meri chahat hai
Par hoga wohi…jo MERI chahat hai
Agar tu ne supard kar dia khud ko…jo MERI chahat hai
To main bakhsh doon ga tujhay jo teri chahat hai

Agar tu ne apni chahat ki zid ki
To main tujhe thakaa doon ga teri khwaish main
Phir hoga wohi jo MERI chahat hai

I’ve heard sufis advise people of detaching from their desires when they make dua, to not obsess over them. They say that when you make your dua and became ‘careless and carefree’ about it and leave outcome to Allah, woh cheez amooman qadmon main aa kar girti hai. And when you obsess over a dua, it runs away from you as will anything you chase. There may be some truth to this.