During the rishta process...

pakistanimard · October 6, 2012, 3:22pm

Re: During the rishta process…

Realistically, in an arranged marriage neither party should mind if asked for certain information .. though all depends on the way its handled ..

In a friends family we had a case **where the guy had a major illness and he didnt mention it **at the time of the rishta process .. but after the wedding the situation got to a point that the wife was mostly acting as his nurse AND dealing with his very awkward family .. it did end up in divorce for various reasons .. the girl felt cheated in many ways .. khair now they are looking to remarry this girl and they very openly ask for some form of medical report .. some families have found it wierd , others dont mind .. but its just one of those things, this family went through a rough experience before and just want to be extra careful this time ..

similar example is what happens in arrange marriages ,** guys dont tell their true salary details **to the girls father , infact many just lie .. when after marriage the girl finds out about the extreme financial pressures she feels cheated .. and many families who are lying about the salary , if asked for a salary slip during the rishta process , mind being asked about it .. but clearly they fail to realize that a father is about to give away his daughter and he wants to know whether the guy he is marrying his daughter to , is stable or not and whether he will be able to run the household or not .. I dont think father of the girl is wrong in anyway in asking for evidence.

I feel one should feel comfortable sharing personal information during a rishta process but only once the rishta communications have matured a bit .. if asked early on , these things can leave a negative impact on the other family . Hence tackling this diplomatically is extremely important.

damn! only guys cheat innit?