IT REALLY is brains not brawn that women look for in a man. An exhaustive study of people from primary school to middle age has proved that clever men are much more likely to marry than those with lesser intelligence.
But for female high-flyers, the reverse is true. Their chances of walking up the aisle are considerably lower than those of classmates who left school at 16.
Academics at the four British universities who carried out the survey said the schoolgirls with high IQs later witnessed a dramatic decline in their marriage prospects. But the brighter schoolboys found it easier to find a bride.
The results are borne out by evidence from psychologists that successful career women are struggling to find “interesting men” who are interested in them.
Relationship experts say professional men prefer to marry women “like their mum” who will provide the domestic support while they go out to work.
Women achievers, however, find it difficult to find men willing to sacrifice their careers to become house husbands.
“A chap with a high IQ is going to get a demanding job that is going to take up a lot of his energy and time. In many ways he wants a woman who is an old-fashioned wife and looks after the home, a copy of his mum in a way.
“The bright girl, on the other hand, remembers that old saying that at first she sinks into his arms only to spend the rest of her life with her arms in his sink.”
^^Because you have to pay the maid. PLus no sex from the maid. With a wife we get two birds with one stone. Here is a free coupon for penniless shoe store go get a pair of slippers, thats the year end bonus for the wife.
The thing to remember (or to learn!) is that marriage is the ultimate partnership. I am married to a man with a high stress professional career. I had a choice - remain in my career which was similar to his and hire outside help to tend the household or leave my job and be a stay-at home wife and mother. Hands down, I chose to be at home. And he agreed with this, he thinks also that this is the better way. Our choice. When you make YOUR choices, it should be together and mutually agreeable. Of COURSE a man who has a high stress professional career would want to come home to a nice dinner, a nice wife, good, happy, clean kiddies etc. Where is the fault in that?? Most educated women want a career and money money money. So the educated men may opt for a woman not college educated who may be more content to be the maker of hearth and home. Problems arise though when the woman feels "kept down", would prefer to get out and prove herself in the world. The thing is to decide what kind of life you would like to have and THEN choose the right partner who has desires that coincide with your own - better if the partner you choose WANTS the same things too (ie., are they staying home out of desire or out of lack of education??) Things to VERY seriously consider.
So the educated men may opt for a woman not college educated who may be more content to be the maker of hearth and home.
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Or the man may want two: a college one to work the bills, and the other one to tend to kitchen and diapers. Whats wrong with that? It's all about understanding right?
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^^Because you have to pay the maid. PLus no sex from the maid. With a wife we get two birds with one stone. Here is a free coupon for penniless shoe store go get a pair of slippers, thats the year end bonus for the wife.
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After readin what mamof3 wrote I'd have to say I'm the kind that's lookin to do her PhD and all but I'd like nothign more than to raise a family with a good man by my side.
Verison saab, are you sure you work on PHONE lines rather than sewer lines???? The way you like to "stir up the poop" so to speak makes me think you may be in the wrong career....
I cannot disagree (completely) with what you are saying, you just have a way with words thats just, well, shall we say provocative :)
There is always the possibility that a woman take some time off from her own high powered career, and stay at home with the kids. I don't remember which magazine it was (maybe Time?) that was reporting more and more working moms (even in high-powered jobs) are choosing to leave work and stay with their kids at home. At least until the children are older and somewhat more independent minded - like maybe middle-school/high-school. Then they return to their careers, although it is admittedly harder finding good work later on.
And frankly, as far as a clean house and meals are concerned, I know plenty of ladies that can manage getting their cooking done and cleaning done WHILST having a high-powered career even.
I think one of the main problems, at least in the US, is the working hours. Americans are putting in way too much overtime, that its really affecting home life. Even Daddy being away at work until 10 pm is of no good to home life. Chirldren need attention from both parents.
The tricky part is being able to find a job where the work hours can be suitable for having a family at the same time (for a female).
And I don't look too well upon guys that immediately go for the uneducated unambitious girl, just so that they can have a homemaker, because an educated female is worth way more to a family than an uneducated one. Whether she is trained to be a lawyer, a doctor, a teacher, or whatever, an educated mother corresponds to educated children. And that too is proven in many studies.
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Verison saab, are you sure you work on PHONE lines rather than sewer lines???? The way you like to "stir up the poop" so to speak makes me think you may be in the wrong career....
I cannot disagree (completely) with what you are saying, you just have a way with words thats just, well, shall we say provocative :)
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Ofcourse doll you can't disagree. How can you when I make sense.
As far as career is concered, phone line sewer line, sex talk line etc. Just a means to put food on the table. Now do I like to "stir poop up" well when I hear these immature young "chicks" (as they call themselves) ranting on like imbiciles thats when my good half likes to give them a few words of advice.
I hear you. All my ex-es and the present one “Well my father used to do hang the pics like this why cant you” Listen Bi$t@ch cause I ain’t your father, now go fetch me a beer. Good Doggie.
And I don't look too well upon guys that immediately go for the uneducated unambitious girl, just so that they can have a homemaker, because an educated female is worth way more to a family than an uneducated one. Whether she is trained to be a lawyer, a doctor, a teacher, or whatever, an educated mother corresponds to educated children. And that too is proven in many studies.
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You with your "proven studies" are more than welcome to find yourself a man who is more than happy to see his wife abandon a little kid for her career. But who the hell are you to look down upon guys that wants a wife who will provide a strong support from home while he goes out and earn a living. That's his choice just like your choice is to go after your career. marriage is a compromise bibiji. Just because a girl decides to stay home doesn't make her any less valuable to the family. Infact, she might be of more help if the husband has a comfortable salary. Studies don't raise kids. Parents raise kids. Lot of "educated and sophisticated" desi girls abandon their kids and husband and vice versa with the "jahil" girls.
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