Okay here it goes:
There is this gal that i know, she wears abbaya in normal routine but when it comes to wedding she wud take it off and wear half selevs, she wud have a hottest hair style, if needed she can talk to a guy without any hesitation and not just a conversation but he wud become her fan, she swears for small things, does chatting with random guys, and she still calls herself a "A simple gal"
IS THIS FAIR???
I've seen some girls who wear hijab ALL the time........but also sport boyfriends and tight clothes from the neck down. I've seen girls who don't do hijab and in many ways are more conservative than those that do. I'm not saying that one group of women is better than the other. More power to those women who can practice hijab consistently, confidently, and respectfully. But in my opinion, the presence or absence of a piece of kapra on your head is NOT ENOUGH for us to determine whether a woman is good or bad or whether she will be among the dwellers of paradise or hell. I believe that there are many factors that will be considered by Allah in his judgment.
Now there is another aunty that i know, she went on haaj last year, she aslo wears abbaya and wud take it off in a wedding, wears make-up, heavy jewllery, wud dance on a wedding (doesn't metter if there are na-maharm men over there watching her)
*Sweetheart, what does Hajj have to do with clothing???????? You seem to have this notion that a person will become PERFECT after doing Hajj and that they will NEVER commit any mistakes. Lemme tell you something......my parents did Hajj when I was 3-years-old........but they're not perfect.......they still make mistakes. For all YOU know................maybe Allah accepted this aunty's Hajj because she performed with a sincere heart. We're human beings, we're not perfect. Each day we commit may mistakes. EVEN YOU. Do you follow every single practice of Islam? Is your heart always clean and pure? Does your heart only have good and clean thoughts? NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Would you call these two womens naik and shareef?????????
^ We ALL are imperfect human beings that make so many mistakes.........we can't pass FINAL JUDGMENT on these two women. We are not Allah and neither are you. Are YOU naik and shareef? What is your definition of naik and shareef and paak and pure? Hijab? Is that your definition of naiki? There might be women who do hijab but also steal and cheat and tell lies and gossip. Are they more or less shareef than someone who doesn't cover their hair???? You sound naive.
^Can you change those women? Can you force them to behave however you want them to? No, sorry, you can't. It would have made more sense for you to create a thread where you ask us opinions on how to guide these women. But to create a thread asking us to pass a final verdict on whether or not she is "shareef" or "naik" is not right. That question is difficult to answer. Ask Allah instead. But be sure of your own "shareefness and naiki" before you do.
And "Naik" doesn't mean wearing a head covering. Naik, to me, refers to someone who is wise and does good/kind deeds to help others. Maybe these two women that you're talking about have helped many people throughout their lives.........maybe they have a very generous heart. And in that sense, they may be more "naik" than you. Humble yourself and think of your own mistakes and sins.