My father is not a die-hard muslim or lets say he believes in God, on & off prays to him but follows religion logically instead of blind faith that we all have.
The problem with him is his inconsistent nature - flaring up in 2 minutes on the minutest of things, interfering in every thing, reacting big on small things, being rude to people and not realizing it, ever ready to fight with any one at all, picking issues even where there are none, does’nt have the will to listen to any one else, be overly nice to some one one day and totally rude the next day,is dominating etc etc. Sometimes, he is so loving and most of the times he is so loud, rude and intimidating. He is of the age where he doesn’t listen to others much so we cant force him to pray or practice other faraiz of religion.
Although, he prays irregularly and fasts as well, i feel there is something missing religously from his end which is why he isnt content and consistent. I cannot tell him to read this surat, read this ayat or do tasbeeh of this but me and my mother can pray for him. Due to his nature, every one seems to be taking a step back from him and is kind of scared too.No one seems to speak up any more so as not to mess up anything, its more of a yes-boss attitude but i don’t like it since he does really badly hurt all in his circle.
We regularly give sadka, on & off give charity to who ever requires, keep all fasts, even though we are under loans we try to give zakat as much as we can, my mother is a 5-time prayer + tahajjud too, i do pray every day but am unable to follow 5-times prayers.
I have prayed a lot for this in duas but it doesnt seem to be making a difference, in fact its getting worse and he keeps picking fights with some one or the other in family who isnt even at fault.I am very worried, please suggest me ways that i or my mother can do.So please can some one tell me any surahs, ayats or tasbeeh to do for Allah to change his nature for good - put him at peace, make him cool-minded, have no mood swings & have a consistent nature?
Efforts and Dua go hand in hand. so make an effort to explain to your father and try to alleviate his worries and concerns. Sometimes logic does not work with parents, especially if they stuck with a certain mindset; but you can always try ur best and May Almighty Allah SWT help u.
U can read a good dua in Surah Taha from ayat No. 25 to 28 or 29, which we should use when we neet to explain or say something. below i’m quoting the same.
As hard as it is to say but I would say it any way. He needs professional counseling. Short of that If there is an authority figure in the friends and family , who he respects, might be able to change him .
I have a couple of people in my family like that, who are quite religious but have poor inter-personal and social skills, always fighting and arguing. Whenever they tell me to do some islamic things i mention that what difference are these things making on you, you keep bickering all the time, this makes them better for few days.