PSquared aap jo keh rahay ho … i will not disagree with it because those people DO EXIST … the kind you are referring to … my only point is that such people exist on both sides … so what’s the entire hassle about rakhshandaz being that sort or the rasheedaz …
but i have to disagree with your point that the fashions like sleeveless and capris are being imported … it’s not as straight-forward as that … it’s a cycle … and i think that media is playing a very evil role … and i cant stress on it much … and cant do enough projects on this fact (i am an artist/designer and write articles too) …
sab log aisa nahi sochtay k aap logoun ko kuch kerna nahi ata … i think it’s the other way around for the most part … I DIDNT KNOW HOW TO DO ANYTHING till the day i came here … and i was very well aware of it … i cant say about those oblivious people who forget about the maids and the cooks in their house …
and as iv said in my post … that girls abroad seem more religious than those back home … but there is an obvious reason behind it … and we cant just resort to blaming someone of how they are … and this is a change i myself have undergone … and i was quite intimidates in the beginning to find people here (beyond GS, not just here) with even their casual conversations dripping with Islamism … adn the reason i think you’v’e also mentioned … k jab ap pakistan mein aur her taraf aik cheez ho rahi hai … to you tend to become more casual about it … for example roza rakhna … but believe me … jab say me yahan ayi houn … i too have had those feelings for holding onto my identity … mein chahoun roza na rakhoun, namaz na parhoun … but these are the things that define me as who i am … and in this society, these are the things that make me unique … and this brand new feeling of being where your morals are not the majority … you work more hard to practice them …
i too had a rishta some time back from some guy in the US … i just had a flat out no to it .. and i think even the MIL-on-hunting-spree was not so impressed by me … i had too much of an opinion and completely carefree of the fact k larkay walay aye hain … becuz i hate this concept …
so the imported brides that you have to deal with are a very specific kind that the foreign MILs pick and choose from in pakistan … the kind who are perhaps not aware and in oblivion … all the people i know in pakistan at least … none of them thinks the way you are projecting the image of pakistanis … which clearly means that there are better people out there …
and also … i said in my post that the girls who used to come to paki during their school years, MOST of the were the docile, shy, religious kind …